Had enough of this

I didn’t think I was that special to her @tyme

I met up with one of my younger siblings today @tyme one of my sisters she just turned 18. just a coffee took the boys with me so I had an excuse to bail out if I needed to, I was pretty worried about it but it was really nice she is doing well about to finish year 12 first one in my family, I havent seen her for a few years except for in the last couple of weeks so I thought i would go see her while i had a day off

That's an incredible feat! @ArraDreaming - to be the first in the family to finish school. I know in the past you have mentioned that your older siblings are 'hopeless', but perhaps your younger siblings have more hope? Especially how they can see you have moved on with life, have a wonderful partner and two amazing children!

It's not necessarily doing things for them, but more that you are there to be an example to them. Even your mere thought in taking your sister out is incredible. Well done!

@tyme They are all younger than me except for one 1/2 brother (mums) I also have some 1/2 siblings (Dads) that I don’t really know.
quite a complicated little family group of all different ages, youngest is about 6 I think. I spent a lot of time looking after the younger ones when I was a kid so I like seeing them turn into adults and be happy little things. I spent a lot of time looking after my younger brother he lived with me for a little while up until about 3 years ago, think I’ve learnt from that I can only give them so much. I can’t be a carer for them anymore I have done it whole life even if it wasnt a formal arrangement I have cared from them since the day I was able to. I prefer to be a like cheerleader for them instead.

That's a really good way of seeing things @ArraDreaming . Especially now that you have your own family - they come first.

As you said, there's only so much you can do. You have done your best. No one can find fault.

Be true to yourself and your values.

My youngest brother (6) is definitely a half sibling my dad died about 8 years ago or so, the rest, yeah it’s just implied but I personally don’t know for sure if they are full siblings or half. It’s a bit of a shit show to be honest… if you put all of us in a room including 1/2 siblings I don’t know they were probably be like 20 of us. Hectic!
yeah definitely, I got burnt out supporting my brother, burnt out from it but also a got a bit burnt from him and now he doesn’t speak to me much. Lesson learnt you can’t do it all. @tyme

Yeah when I met my partner (and our oldest, he was about 1 and a half) in 2019 I knew it was time to pull back on the sib stuff, start to build my own village and stuff like that @tyme

LOL...the zoo! @ArraDreaming .

Well can't really blame them if community-style living is all they know. In a way, many countries still have this type of living, and hence they see having 1 or 2 children as 'weird'.

Community living has its benefits. Relieves pressure off the parents. The community work together to bring up the children as their own.