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I am not a big believer in simplistic credos .. like my house my rules ... or my baby my rules ... but seems you are floating somewhere in between those ideas a little. @Freedom11 Finding the path of mutual respect is rarely easy, but speaking out to your friend could help clarify things. Your relationship is primary, but they also are in close quarters. Your feelings are a guide, but be careful how you address it. In my mind it is overstepping the roles a bit, but I am not typical.

Take Care of you and your girl.

@Appleblossom Thanks for your advice. I am stepping very carefully as I don't want to ruin a good friendship, but I am wanting her to understand that she is my daughter and that we are both happy to follow their house rules but I'm not willing to be controlled or have my daughter controlled just because I have mental health issues

@Freedom11

Trust your gut feeling, maybe you aren't overreacting.

@Lino .I generally do but with all my recent meltdowns I not sure if I can trust my gut feeling

Sounds like a wholesome talk about boundaries and expectations might be a place to start. I'd say, rather than measure whether it's a big deal or a small deal, more recognize what's important to you and go from there.

@Freedom11

What you have posted and the other replies sounds very reasonable to me.

Your friend may not mean to overstep legit boundaries but just thought her approaches were easy "fixes", and helpful, so there is no need to get too uphet about it all too quickly.

Know what you mean about self doubt when Mental illness is in play, so trust both aspects of your get feelings, to protect your relationships.

Its sitting on bad feelings, not expressing yourself, and having situations repeat, that could be a problem later.