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I'm sick of having to ignore or downplay how unstable my mental health is since moving to this shitty rural town just because my husband has a stable job and I have to do what's best for the family. Is wrong for me to ask him to put in for a transfer to somewhere else despite how well he does here for my own sanity. We have lived here 3 years and I'm at breaking point I cant cope no more
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hanamiSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member
Sorry to hear about your situation. I can hear how frustrated you are with it all. Your feelings and needs are valid for sure. Have you spoken at all with your husband as to how you feel? Is it possible for him to be transferred? I live in a regional area not rural but can imagine there are limits as far as services and facilities go. Do you have any friends who live nearby that you can talk to about how you're feeling?
Sending hugs
Hamami
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BowSenior Contributor
Hey @Former-Member can you have an open conversation with your husband about your struggles. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to live in such a rural place and struggle with your mental health and have very limited access to supports.
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AussieRechargerSenior Contributor
@Former-Member
I can sense there is so much more to what you are saying.. Can you elaborate a little for me?
Do you feel disconnected at the moment, like you are in a very lonely place? Do you feel judged in that town? Do you already have an idea of where you would move to, and why would that place be good for you?
You don't have to answer.. I would just love to know more as I can definitely get the sense you are hurting right now.
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tymeModerator
Dear @Former-Member ,
How are you today?
You have shown much resilience these last three years. It sounds like you have tried to make things work - but it hasn't.
Have you been able to speak to your husband about this?
Also, do you have support networks you can talk to? It is important you have supports at this time.
tyme
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AussieRechargerSenior Contributor
@Former-Member
How are you doing? We are still around if you need to talk..
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Unknown userMember
Hi @AussieRecharger , @tyme , @Bow , @hanami and everyone else who passes through.
Thankyou all for your advice and support.
I did manage to talk to my husband and to a worker through a program I've been referred to. We have signed up to blue care and going to see if that helps. After the Christmas break my husband said if I'm still struggling then he'll put in for a transfer back to the Brisbane area, where I still have a support system of friends and a sister.
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AussieRechargerSenior Contributor
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Unknown userMember
@AussieRecharger,
Still crap but for different reasons that I've started to explain in the thread "help me through September cause it sucks"
But not sure if I'm going to keep seeking support here... I don't know just one of the replies really upset me I might take a hiatus again for a while. It's hard when there one place you feel truly listened to makes you feel the same devaluation that your family does
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PaperdaisySenior Contributor
hey @Former-Member I'm sorry to read that something has upset you on the forums. Please drop us an email if you want to chat about it further. Wishing you well 💛
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AussieRechargerSenior Contributor
I know you have gone now, but i wish you luck.. Here if you want to reach out again. Don't let one person ruin the relationships the rest of us have built with you as I really enjoy having you around.
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