JayboyCasual Contributor
Where to now?
Hello,
I am new to these forums having stumbled upon them whilst googling for info. My story is not unique. I married my childhood sweetheart and we have been together for 27 years. Approximately 14 years ago DH had a major breakdown. We had a babe in arms and a toddler at the time. He would come home from work and take all the pictures of the walls looking for cameras and was convinced that the street lights were cameras. His conspiracy theories were worthy of the big screen. I was able to get him hospitalised and with medication and therapy he slowly recovered. As often happens he stopped medication after about a year because he felt well, and was well, up until approx 3 years ago when he had a relapse. He wasn't hospitalised even though I believed he needed it. He accessed our savings account and spent the lot on mail order DNA testing for our kids (I didn't find out till later). They all came back saying he was their Dad but he didn't believe it so he kept trying other companies. He didnt think I had had an affair, he thought a prince had artificially inseminated me - long story. Anyway we got him back on medication and he was seeing a phycologist but his recovery was much slower. He is still on meds but does not have a health care team other than his GP (who he only sees to get new scripts). Just lately I sense a change in his mood and sleeping habits, and I am concerned that he is heading for another episode. He is very reluctant to talk about his illness, and the doctors have been reluctant to formally diagnose him. To my knowledge he is schizophrenic and when he is symptomatic he has massive trust issues with everyone but me. My question is, how can I put together a good holistic health care team that will take the time to get to know him and build a positive relationship? And how do I question him about how he's feeling without getting the usual "I'm fine" answer. If he is on the way to another episode, I want to get him help before it gets really serious.... What do I do next to help him?? Sorry for the long post.
I am new to these forums having stumbled upon them whilst googling for info. My story is not unique. I married my childhood sweetheart and we have been together for 27 years. Approximately 14 years ago DH had a major breakdown. We had a babe in arms and a toddler at the time. He would come home from work and take all the pictures of the walls looking for cameras and was convinced that the street lights were cameras. His conspiracy theories were worthy of the big screen. I was able to get him hospitalised and with medication and therapy he slowly recovered. As often happens he stopped medication after about a year because he felt well, and was well, up until approx 3 years ago when he had a relapse. He wasn't hospitalised even though I believed he needed it. He accessed our savings account and spent the lot on mail order DNA testing for our kids (I didn't find out till later). They all came back saying he was their Dad but he didn't believe it so he kept trying other companies. He didnt think I had had an affair, he thought a prince had artificially inseminated me - long story. Anyway we got him back on medication and he was seeing a phycologist but his recovery was much slower. He is still on meds but does not have a health care team other than his GP (who he only sees to get new scripts). Just lately I sense a change in his mood and sleeping habits, and I am concerned that he is heading for another episode. He is very reluctant to talk about his illness, and the doctors have been reluctant to formally diagnose him. To my knowledge he is schizophrenic and when he is symptomatic he has massive trust issues with everyone but me. My question is, how can I put together a good holistic health care team that will take the time to get to know him and build a positive relationship? And how do I question him about how he's feeling without getting the usual "I'm fine" answer. If he is on the way to another episode, I want to get him help before it gets really serious.... What do I do next to help him?? Sorry for the long post.
