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creative_writerSenior Contributor
I have been struggling a lot lately with suicidal thoughts. It’s become a daily occurrence and it’s been really overwhelming to cope. I am safe right but having to fight this is very exhausting. I feel so trapped, I am tired of living in pain, fear and shame. I feel like a burden to people and unimportant.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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FloatingFeatherSenior Contributor
Hi @creative_writer,
I'm really sorry to read you are feeling like this. It sounds like things are really hard for you at the moment. I'm a big believer in hope - nobody knows what good things tomorrow may bring.
I really hope you're okay - we are here for you.
Warmest,
FloatingFeather
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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FloatingFeatherSenior Contributor
I can read the pain in your post @creative_writer. You are good enough - you really are and you are worthy and deserving of a good and happy life.
Ruminating is one of my specialities so I know how that feels! I also know (easier said than done I know) that it doesn't really help anything it just usually makes things feel worse.
I have sent you an email - if you can respond when you can it would be much appreciated.
Warmest,
FloatingFeather
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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FloatingFeatherSenior Contributor
Thanks for your email response @creative_writer - it's much appreciated.
How any can blame a victim is beyond me as there is no justification to ever put blame on a victim.
Sometimes I think we are harsher on ourselves than anyone else. As you said, you 'wouldn't blame a SA survivor'. I think you should extend that thinking to yourself - you aren't to blame either. Sometimes when I am being tough on myself I like to think what would my best friend say to me and I know she would be supportive, comforting, understanding etc - for some reason we aren't always as kind to ourselves as we would be to others. You deserve understanding, support and kindness to my friend.
Warmest,
FloatingFeather
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Captain24Senior Contributor
I get the blaming yourself @creative_writer. But in most circumstances it’s not your fault. I invited him into my home. That’s when it’s my fault.
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FloatingFeatherSenior Contributor
Invited in the home, on a date, had a coffee, what someone wore, etc there is never justification or circumstance where it is the fault of the victim @Captain24. The fault lies solely with the offender.
I hope you are both okay @Captain24 and @creative_writer ❤️
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