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BPD - my daughter needs help, i cant find it

BPD - my daughter needs help, i cant find it

I took my 22 year old daughter to a mental health place 2 weeks ago, because if she didnt get help im scared shed end up dead. she has depression and was told a few years ago she most likely has PTSD, but she wouldnt go to see anyone for help. Her life is spiralling out of control, she has shocking anger and rage episodes that frighten me, she has a drug addiction, but she is mixing a cocktail of diffrent things, self harms, and she had told me she just doesnt care anymore, lifs to hard now and shes hhad enough. So at te firs appointment a mental hhealth professional spoke with my daughter, then bot of us together, i told them everything and how extreme her situation is, but they seemed to think it wasnt extreme enough for them to take her on and i should just get a mental health care plan and talk to my gp. I have done all that, but it didnt work, she needs more that just a councillor to talk to. So they booked another appointment for the following week with a psychiatrist, who diagnosed her with BPD. but thats all he told me and booked another appiontment for next week. I dont know if i should go and get the mental health care plan from my gp still, or if they will do it at the next appointment, they gave me no information or any advice as to where things go from here. After reading up on BPD when i got home, its my daughter to a T, but she is to the extreme. I dont know where to get more help or where to go now

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Re: BPD - my daughter needs help, i cant find it

Stay strong - you sound like you’re being an amazing, resilient support in a really difficult situation. For what it’s worth, my BPD sister had to experience crisis and acute hospitalization before being diagnosed but that was also a pathway to dialectical behaviour therapy. In my observation, the DBT has been a really solid pathway to her living as close a life to “normal” (as problematic as that concept is) as possible. I truly hope you can get her the treatment and support from professionals she needs. Echoing frustration at MH units not always seeing how dire the situation is too! This has been the case for another family member who masks really well in those situations and then shortly after returns to self-sabotaging and destructive ways 😞

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Re: BPD - my daughter needs help, i cant find it

@ExhaustedCarer @ThatRedHeadChik , it seems BPD is so stigmatised so people are turned away when they have a BPD diagnosis. It’s so sad. I was told this first hand by my case manager. He said they don’t normally take people with a BPD diagnosis because the resources are so stretched.

I was only speaking to a carer the other day. He said he has been trying to get his wife into BPD specific therapy for years but because she’s not ‘bad enough’, they won’t take her. He is still waiting while the wife is in and out of hospital all the time and he himself is living on edge all the time.

I hope the will be reforms and more BPD specific services become available.

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