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Unintentional harm is inflicted harm none the less.

Unintentional harm is inflicted harm none the less.

I know a person who is a qualified nurse who on several occasions has told me that they utilize their skills as a nurse to do mental health assessments on pretty much everyone they encounter, regardless of whether they are at work or not. I am not too familiar with the medical terms, but apparently, there is a quick assessment or checklist that a nurse does to determine if a person potentially is living with a mental illness. Whether or not they realise it, or is intending to when they say this to me, I feel degraded, which lingers and then over time builds into a belief that people in the mental health field, in general, are using their skills to subjugate people like myself. I am self-aware to know those persecutory delusions are a symptom of my illness. However, it is unfair to put the full brunt of responsibility on myself for having these feelings. I feel I am always the one who has to do all the leg work to keep myself in check, and it is like all the people who haphazardly trigger me and cause me distress are free to do so.

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Re: Unintentional harm is inflicted harm none the less.

I'm sorry to hear about what's been happening for you @BlueTrane .

Do you think it is sometimes helpful to speak to the person directly about how you feel when they mention they use their skills for other purposes?

You don't deserve to be continually facing the same sort of unintentional hurt.

I hope you can find some space to be kind to yourself at this time.

Kindest, tyme

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I don't know how to respond to this, to be honest @BlueTrane, but just wanted to let you know you've been heard and understood. It's time everyone took a step back and considered their own imperfections–especially their delusion that they are alright and everyone else has the problems. Must be bliss in their world! Blissful ignorance! Take care.

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I have no formal qualifications, however, having cared for someone with Bipolar Disorder for 5 years, I have made some observations along the way. In my humble opinion, a large number of "professionals" either do not listen or give the impression of listening having already made up their minds. No two cases are the same and just when you think you've got the situation figured, BAM, a curve ball from left field.

I don't know what assessment tool that nurse is talking about, but I would imagine that catching someone on a bad day could give very inaccurate results in any case.

Too many health professionals see people as a walking, talking collection of symptoms rather than as human beings.

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Hi @BlueTrane

Only immature health professionals brag about this kind of thing!

I'd suggest you do one of two things, whichever feels more comfortable for you:

1) Politely state that such comments are disrespectful and clearly in breach of the Code of Professional Conduct for Nurses in Australia (see attachment).

1) Ignore it because this person is showing off and making themself look silly to everybody who knows better.

Take care and all the best xo

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Not sure where the attachment went sorry!

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You are so right Enginegiant!

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This is one time I wish I wasn't right.

People with mental health conditions usually find it hard to impossible to advocate for themselves and often get steamrolled. I know my partner will typically say yes and sign anything because she feels subserviant to those in power and/or they don't give her enough time to take information in. My partner is not mentally deficient, she is conditioned to be obedient as a result of abuse.

Why do the "professionals" find it so hard to see what we consider self evident?

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