I can’t cope

Do you have a problem with me @holdinghope5

Of course not @Captain24 as I said, it's just about the community guidelines. I know it can be upsetting to have your posts edited, and if you feel that it has been unfairly done you are welcome to let us know through the feedback form.

@tyme. I’m done for the night. I don’t feel safe or comfortable on here. If you respond I’ll get it tomorrow.

I hope tomorrow is better for you.

How do I feel safe on here again?

morning @Captain24!

i can see that you want to engage on the forums but there's a bit of hesitation around it, and that's completely okay - please feel free to slowly ease back and go at whatever pace feels comfy for you. there's absolutely no rush.

reflecting back to previous times you've felt this way, what helped you feel safe then? what helped in building back some confidence around posting?

Hey @rav3n

In the past I would only post when certain mods were on and completely avoid when a particular mod was on. (I still do) I had a lot of support with it and they were amazing. I really really slowly started to let a few more on. I would only post on my thread and I still do. I’m still not confident to post on other ones. Only on the odd occasion.

Im feeling really uncomfortable with a particular one but I have no idea of when they are on and it scares me. It makes me really uncomfortable. I can’t do anything right. They would delete what I’m writing now. Feel free to I’m ok with that as I know you would have listened first.

I do know it’s my MH talking but it’s hard. The way I feel I can’t say on here.

Hey @Captain24 hearing how upsetting this has been for you. I second @rav3n's advice on taking things at your own pace and giving yourself space from the forums when you're not feeling safe on here.

No mod here wants you to feel unsafe. It can be a tough gig sometimes enforcing guidelines but it's something that all of us mods have to do. It's never about telling you that you've done something wrong, and it is something that happens to all members, if it didn't we wouldn't need mods!

Again, go slowly and take care today

It has been really upsetting @Ru-bee

I 100% get where you were coming from yesterday and understand where I went wrong.

I get you guys have a job to do but when it’s hard that what’s ok with someone is totally not ok with someone else. I don’t even know what I said that was wrong. That’s where it is hard.

I have had to work really hard to feel safe in here again and now that has been compromised once again. I feel like I can’t say anything and feel intimidated.