Where to from here?

Hello all, I am new to the site and have spent the last couple of days reading through all your stories and experiences. I'm a 31yo male that moved in with my friend about 18 months ago. She is a single mum and was struggling to manage the day to day stresses that come with that.

about 4 months after I moved in I recieved a message from our neighbor saying she had to call the police and ambulance as my housemate was acting strangely. Prior to this episode I knew something wasnt right but wasnt sure what it was or how to tackle it. She was becoming more and more angry (not at me just the world) aqnd was talking about been hacked and watched also saying things about how we arent safe here at home anymore.

I had also noticed a difference in her appearance and what I call "the look" which is when she talks to you but her eyes are basically rolled back.

She ended up spending 6-8 weeks away in the MHU during that time I looked after my 3yo god daughter (her daughter) and tried to work fulltime and visit my friend as much as possible. When she returned home which was arounf Nov last years she was still very angry. This escalated to her throwing stuff around and slamming doors (Never while her daughter was around).

she didnt continue with medication when she came out of hospital and was doing ok up until 2 months ago.

Things really went up a level and very quickly too over a 5-7 day period she become increasinly paranoid and wasnt sleeping she wasnt making any sense in text messages or general conversation. She became verbally agressive towards me and others, she also lost her sense of time and started accusing me and our neighbor of having her hypnotized and that we were lying to her about the date and time and that infact it was only a week after her first hospital visit.

then she started to accuse me of been involved in this hacking group and plotting against her. she would say things like "Are you going to go play in the crystal castle?" Obvioulsly something had to be done as it was getting to a point where I was in danger of getting hurt and she was in danger of hurting herself.

So after a violent outburst (which I wasnt there for) where she came home and started throwing things around the house and smashing stuff the police were called again and so was the ambulance. they decided she wasnt enough of a danger to herself to take her to hospital. The next day her sister agreed to call the CATT team and advised them what was going on. They came and visited and agreed she needed to be hospitalized. She didnt agree to this so the police had to come again to take her.

when I returned home to an absolute warzone and started the process of cleaning up I found her notes on the kitchen bench that were all about how I am involved with the bad guys and had been sent to monitor her for them. She has since been released from hospital and again came home very angry.

It was at this point i decided it was better for me to care from a distance as I was confident she wasnt a threat to herself. So I packed some stuff up and stayed in a hotel a few blocks away for a few nights.

That was about a month ago now and I have only just returned to stay at the house again for the first time since she came home. Because this still all feels very new to me in terms of supporting her i'm not sure what to do.

I have eliminated stuff that I know are triggers for her e.g. I can only wear plain shirts no logos or words, No music, No computers and only checking my phone when she isnt in the room. I still get the feeling she thinks I am there to monitor her and report back to the bad guys. I'm not sure how to communicate with her to find out what she needs or to talk about how I can best help. although I am listed as her mental health advocate and next of kin there was no information given to me about what to look out for and who I should or shouldnt contact. Also I have struggled with how I am meant to start feeling safe in my home again.