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Wait what did I come into this thread for again? Oh yeah, ADHD!

JynxModerator22 Feb 2022, 8:34 pm AEDT

Wait what did I come into this thread for again? Oh yeah, ADHD!

Hey all! I decided to kick start a sweet little space for us to gather and talk ADHD!!

You can read the Topic Tuesday discussion (at which I was a guest) here.

Some of my go to resources:

ADDitude - Online Magazine/resource for all things ADHD

Three Pillars - My preference for explaining the experience of ADHD without relying on the DSM-V (scroll to bottom and work your way up the list)

How to ADHD - A Youtube channel with tips, tricks, strategies, how to guides, life hacks, you name it

Russel Barkley - a world renowned psychiatrist who has been at the forefront of research into ADHD, its neurochemical markers, and its impacts on daily experience, particularly in regards to executive dysfunction. The link is to an hour-long video aimed at parents of kids with ADHD. He also has one for adults with ADHD (with actionable tips!).

This is a space to talk about your experiences, struggles, strategies, and just an all-round safe spot to be a big pile of chaotic energy right here!!

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GlistenSenior Contributor25 Nov 2023, 8:12 pm AEDT

Re: Wait what did I come into this thread for again? Oh yeah, ADHD!

@ArraDreamingwhat sort of work do you do?

What is your workplace like?

I struggled a LOT until I started medication.

I love procedures.

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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor25 Nov 2023, 8:13 pm AEDT

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apart from academically being slow i think thats part of why i found school so yard
because they first thing they said to you was do this task, now sit at this table for an hour and do this task you have to finish it and that was so far past me. i may have coped better if they had said here’s 3 work sheets, you have 3 hours to do them someone will keep an eye on you and help you you can get up, go for a walk and come back to it any time in the 3 hours, or take a break, so like setting a limit but giving me the space still

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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor25 Nov 2023, 8:16 pm AEDT

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@Glisten i work in a nursery generally I know what tasks need to be completed by following a list I’d know almost off the top of my head but I like to tick things off, and sometimes it changes and that’s fine too, I have a certain amount of time that I know I need to get it done in but I can do it in the order that works best for that day and I know that when I complete xyz I can then go on my break. sometimes things happen like customers will ask me for help or other staff need to talk to me, or I need to go into the shop and serve customers but then I just pick up my list again and use that to help me.

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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor25 Nov 2023, 8:17 pm AEDT

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so nobody is breathing down my neck but there is still a level of responsibility on me to finish the jobs for the day @Glisten

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JynxModerator25 Nov 2023, 8:24 pm AEDT

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It's totally a thing @ArraDreaming - needing structure to function but disliking structure implemented by others! Can be super challenging hey. It's called demand avoidance, and I think has to do with stuff like having your routine or your focus interrupted, feeling a loss of agency, or being told to do something without being given a reason. That link is for autistic demand avoidance but it definitely applies to us ADHDers as well. It used to be called Oppositional Defiance Disorder, but that was super stigmatising so I'm glad it's been given a new name and new research backing it up.

I like that you've found it helpful to make your own list! That's a reclamation of your sense of agency, knowing you will complete your work within the time given but doing so at your own pace. It's also well documented that for ADHDers need more frequent breaks! They don't have to be long, but being able to take breaks just to refill the dopamine tank a little can go a long way for our ability to focus. Do you get to take many breaks at work?

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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor25 Nov 2023, 8:30 pm AEDT

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@Jynx I only skimmed over it but that is so me especially younger me!!!! hooley Dooley….

yeah my work is pretty flexible in that sense, nobody really bats an eyelid if I have to respond to a quick text or take a breather as long I am away from customers, sometimes just going and grabbing a takeaway coffee from our coffee shop and then continue on working while I drink my coffee can be helpful
I have been learning from my son who is now at school that these are called “brain breaks” they take them every 20 mins at school these days, he says sometimes they run around the oval for their brain break or play a game in the classroom,
pretty interesting

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JynxModerator25 Nov 2023, 8:54 pm AEDT

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Brain breaks! I love that @ArraDreaming and yes, much needed! I often potter around whilst I'm on shift here, grabbing a cuppa or patting my kitties. It really helps.

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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor25 Nov 2023, 8:56 pm AEDT

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I’m gonna assume you work from home or sane has some weird as policy around taking cats to work @Jynx
I did initially think you said “painting my kitties” and I was like that is a different way to describe your finger and toe nails

Wow
I’m a bit all over the shop tonight it is nearlt tv and bed time here though

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GlistenSenior Contributor25 Nov 2023, 9:00 pm AEDT

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@ArraDreaming & @Jynx I struggled at school. My mother dying when I was 7, didn’t help.

I thrived at University, but I loved doing my Degree.

You sound like you like your job @ArraDreaming

If you get paid to do something you like then you’re in front of most people.

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JynxModerator25 Nov 2023, 9:14 pm AEDT

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Bahaha yes I work from home @ArraDreaming but LOL just picturing me painting my nails in the office and talking about 'my kitties' that is hilarious

Aww that's tough @Glisten I'm so sorry. And you're right, if studying something I actually have an interest in, I thrive! But doing maths? Not so much 😅

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