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What defines reality?

What defines reality?

Sometimes I struggle to understand what is actually real.. so much of our psychological and physical experience is based on how we are molded by our lives.

There are so many points of view and perspectives these days.. how can we sort out fact from fiction, truth or lies.. Why is it that two different people can insist that their reality is real, when one view is the opposite of the other? - are both realities valid.

Is real what another person might convince us is real?
Is something more real, the more people believe in it?
Is real the expectations of society?
Is real what I believe is real?
Is real dictated by the person with the most facts?
Is real only defined by the scientific method or tangible proof?
Is real what is defined by our government?
Is real what a religious leader defines as truth?
Is real determined by our moral code?
Is real only defined by experts on that topic?


Are we simply living as delusional beings from birth..

Here are a few more specific questions:
Why do we fight wars over our belief in what is real?
Why do we ignore reality even at the expense of our own lives?
What makes one political party right and the other one wrong?
Why is it that we seek out religion or spirituality to understand our reality?
Why do people continue to believe in something, that may not be real?
Why do we validate one persons version of reality, but discard others?

If anything is real..
What rules can be put in place to ensure that an experience has validity?

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Hello @RandleMcMurphy I really love your post and have grappled with a lot of similar questions.

My bottom line means leaving scope for the seen and unseen and the effect human actors and human history have in the physical world.

Hardcore agreement on things seems tricky to me, however a lot of people crave certainty and demand it from those around them. So I may not be in the majority.

Tagging forum people who might like to add to your thread and talk philosophy.

@MDT @StuF @Former-Member @chibam @HenryX

cheers Apple

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@Appleblossom @RandleMcMurphy

This is just something I saw the other day. It doesn't answer (m)any of your questions, but it feels pertinent:

"In a mother’s womb were two babies. One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?”
The other replied, “Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.”
“Nonsense” said the first. “There is no life after delivery. What kind of life would that be?”
The second said, “I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths. Maybe we will have other senses that we can’t understand now.”
The first replied, “That is absurd. Walking is impossible. And eating with our mouths? Ridiculous! The umbilical cord supplies nutrition and everything we need. But the umbilical cord is so short. Life after delivery is to be logically excluded.”
The second insisted, “Well I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here. Maybe we won’t need this physical cord anymore.”
The first replied, “Nonsense. And moreover if there is life, then why has no one has ever come back from there? Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery there is nothing but darkness and silence and oblivion. It takes us nowhere.”
“Well, I don’t know,” said the second, “but certainly we will meet Mother and she will take care of us.”
The first replied “Mother? You actually believe in Mother? That’s laughable. If Mother exists then where is She now?”
The second said, “She is all around us. We are surrounded by her. We are of Her. It is in Her that we live. Without Her this world would not and could not exist.”
Said the first: “Well I don’t see Her, so it is only logical that She doesn’t exist.”
To which the second replied, “Sometimes, when you’re in silence and you focus and you really listen, you can perceive Her presence, and you can hear Her loving voice, calling down from above.”
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Words by Útmutató a Léleknek.

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I like specific questions so I might have a go at answering them in the hope of actually answering the grander question.

Why do we fight wars over our belif in what's real? Indoctrination I would say. It comes in many forms. But only the steadfast, hard of mind and heart will go to war for their belief in what is real. That's why people strap bombs to themselves and drive trucks into crowds.

We ignore reality at the expense of our lives I think because we are not always rational actors. Many threats to ourselves exist and its only in blissful ignorance that we can get away with metaphorically shooting ourselves in the foot.

Political parties are a reality of individuals coming together who agree on certain basic principles. The political actor within it MUST be convinced of certain principles or else they are no longer party loyal. Those within will argue their view is right when it may be objectively wrong.

Religion and spiritual are our best attempt at explaining what is unexplainable. Our first attempt at making sense of the transcendent.

People believe in something as an act of faith I guess? It's ultimately a gamble.


I think we are a perceptive species governed by forces that we can articulate (politics, creeds, religions, ethics, values) and things we can't (faith, transcendent, spirituality).
What is real is ultimately what we act out and what we act out is informed by what we believe. I can believe something is real and act accordingly. I can never believe something and NOT act it out. It is not in our nature as a species.

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Thats a good story @StuF
Is it meant to be a metaphor for God?

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I guess it certainly can be that @MDT

But personally I don't feel that it is limited to that

I just like the way it portrays our interpretation of 'reality' as we see it

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Please know that I am not expecting answers to all these questions.. it was really to provoke a thoughtful response.. I was just hoping that this provides a basis for some insight into whatever you feel like expanding upon..

Thankyou for being so thorough though.. it is most appreciated..

@StuF

@MDT

@Appleblossom

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@RandleMcMurphy I believe in the after life. In our previous house there were two ghosts who would bang cupbourd doors, scream and make themselves visable.

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Hello @RandleMcMurphy , @Appleblossom , @StuF , @MDT

and other members visiting this thread.

@Appleblossom, thank you for the tag and thus, the invitation to this thread. You and I, I believe, have similar thoughts, ideas, concepts and aspirations.

@StuF, I really like the allegory of the two babies in the womb, reflections on what life is and on the possibilities of future life and whatever may follow. There seems to me to be, at once, a profound depth in what I perceive to be the meaning in the interchange, combined with a certain delightful humour in the connections as well. I know that I smiled as I read the story. And I also felt connection between my own thoughts and beliefs and those presented in the story. I will use it in future reflections.

@MDT, approaches the subject in, what I perceive to be a rather pragmatic, "see it to believe it" approach. To some extent I agree that the choices we make can be, in @MDT's words, "ultimately a gamble." But then isn't life a gamble, of the hand we are dealt, with some elements of decision thrown in to cause us to think that we have some control?

While I may not necessarily agree with the way that @MDT has distributed the elements in brackets, I agree in general with his observation:

"I think we are a perceptive species governed by forces that we can articulate (politics, creeds, religions, ethics, values) and things we can't (faith, transcendent, spirituality)."

And, I think that it boils down to perceptions in what might, with some negative connotation, be described as "this fluid miasma of life".

@RandleMcMurphy, I believe they are real and, for me possibly as much as for you, valid questions, needing to be addressed by each of us in our own ways and to the degree that we feel is necessary for our own edification as well as satisfaction. I believe that we all face these questions in different ways and from different perspectives, as demonstrated already in the three responses so far and mine to add to those. Discussion of these issues often raises other issues as much as it might assist in resolving some. But that is also a worthwhile goal; searching for more questions.

The questions are more strongly asked by some people than others, I think. Some people want firmer foundations, in terms of moral, ideological and spiritual concepts.

A book, of which I had, some time ago, assured @StuF that I would offer a synopsis, is called

"The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion"

by Jonathan Haidt

for which an introduction follows. The book may be of interest and may address some of your questions:

"As America descends deeper into polarization and paralysis, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt has done the seemingly impossible—challenged conventional thinking about morality, politics, and religion in a way that speaks to everyone on the political spectrum. Drawing on his twenty five years of groundbreaking research on moral psychology, he shows how moral judgments arise not from reason but from gut feelings. He shows why liberals, conservatives, and libertarians have such different intuitions about right and wrong, and he shows why each side is actually right about many of its central concerns. In this subtle yet accessible book, Haidt gives you the key to understanding the miracle of human cooperation, as well as the curse of our eternal divisions and conflicts. If you’re ready to trade in anger for understanding, read The Righteous Mind."

A copy can be downloaded from

https://www.pdfdrive.com/the-righteous-mind-why-good-people-are-divided-by-politics-and-e6970074.html

Unfortunately, I have been spending more time than I had initially planned on this forum, among other activities, so am unable yet to offer @StuF the summary that I would still like to offer before "we emerge from this womb of life".

I believe that we sift from the information available to us what we think that we need in our lives. I have travelled the path between being a person who wanted concrete foundations and constructs on which to build my beliefs and aspirations, to a person who now has more open beliefs and recognises the fluidity of life and my own perceptions of what I observe in that fluid space. It has taken me 70+ yrs, from womb to now to arrive at my present perceptions and beliefs. I am now a person who believes more in quality of life and the way that we live it, than in concrete ideas. Here a reflection might be appropriate, on the wind breaking the limbs of the mighty oak tree and the reed gently bending and swaying in the gusts. Then there is the story of the "Three little Pigs" and their houses, so everything according to its purpose.

With My Best Wishes

@HenryX

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Wow.. that would be truly frightening.. how did you deal with that?

A relative of mine.. who was as down to earth as you could get, swore to me that they saw something once.. they genuinely thought someone broke into their home.. this was after someone had died in the house some months before..

@Bunniekins

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Like @Bunniekins

On the spiritual side I can say that I have lived in a house in which there seemed to me to be a certain presence.

The atmosphere was more benign and possibly nurturing. The mother of my children believed that she saw the image of a youngish woman in the passageway of the fairly big house in the country where we lived. We were about 2 km from the farm owners own house and 8 km from the nearest small town. I never saw any image. However, I did always feel very comfortable in that house, when others were there, but particularly when I was on my own.

Best Wishes

@HenryX

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