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Carving out this space to write letters to myself as a form of therapy and as a form of inspiration
I hope what i write can help others in some way.
I am about to make some big decisions in my life and i am on my way to new things and so i need a space like this to collate thiughts but also in an environment of like minded people. Or else I'd just type it out like anyone else would.
Off i go
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MDTSenior Contributor
Dear Hams
There are many things going on in your mind now.
Yesterday you had a bad afternoon because you were thinking of doing something you hadn't done in a long time. In the end you figured you were too depressed to do it. But I believe this was also because you were starting to see how such a negative mindset towards yourself is not reaping any benefit. What if I told you that the only way things will improve for you is if you were better to yourself. Not nicer or kinder - but better.
Remember the two golden rules you made for yourself earlier this month - that you would contextualise everything that has happened up until this very time in your life. And that secondly, you would not go idle.
By contextualising I mean remembering that once upon a time you were in hospital for your mental health. I know you weren't there long but the kength of the visit is not important. What is important is that you found yourself there. It was a rough time my Hams, and since then look where you are now. Always please remember to contextualise things. If you do not then you will find it hard not to spiral out of control. Be better to yourself - boost your gym attendance, keep being active, keep having variety in your days while also committing to things. This is what I mean by don't go idle. Focus on things you need to do. Make lists and act on them. Be open and be in tune with your intelligence. You are about to start studying again and this is a good thing because your mind will be engaged. You are at the ideal stage to do that.
I know part of you is telling you that you must have a job - but as we know this attitude only got you so far. What you're now doing is working towards something that can become a job. So that ultimate goal hasn't changed. You were wasted in your old job. It gave you nothing. You were bored. You learned it in the first week. It was just tasks. No originality. No room for movement. And this my friend is what you ultimately must look for. So keep doing that. You wanted to start that the past few days but you've been distracted by things that come up and other commitments. You're also still beating yourself up about that job interview in Monday. Well my friend the horse bolted and ots done now. You can't change the past. But I also know how important to you this chance was - it was a great opportunity and if you don't get it then you will feel regret. But this happens. Learn what you need to from this experience and focus on what's next.
Its easier said than done I know but at some point it'll click that constantly renumerating about things reaps nothing other than it once sued to so why bother continuing into thay frame of mind?
It sucks to be young with wars and pandemics on at the moment I know. But imagine what hope lies beyond when such things are no more.
You are firmly in control Hams. Back yourself.
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tymeModerator
@MDT ! You've tugged my heartstrings there!
What an incredible and impressive introspection.
It shows where you are now, where you want to be, as well as how to get there.
I would be so proud of myself if I was able to come up with something like that - so powerful!
Good on you @MDT !
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MDTSenior Contributor
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MDTSenior Contributor
Dear Hams
Well. It's been a while since I wrote to you last. Almost a month in fact to the day.
The last month has provided you with ample time to focus on youself. You've secluded yourself from interaction (to some extent, but not completely) and you have been traversing the gorges and caverns of your soul. By shining a light into those parts of your Being you are finding convictions, abilities and beliefs that are lodged away. Mining through theses has given you a better understanding of yourself and perhaps most importantly - WHY - you do the things you do, think the things you think, and view yourself in the way you do.
You've been to two weddings and though they were different - the core message was the same. Two people wanted to commit to one another. It is a beautiful thing to behold. Particularly in a world filled with such chaos and torment. There is a balance to be struck when it comes to viewing the entirety of the world and appreciating matrimony is exactly that.
I know you used to see weddings with some level of discomfort... wondering about your own situation. But I learned on the weekend that everyone is in different positions with regards to that. Lack of experience or knowledge of such matters is not a reason to look down on yourself nor is it a reason to think you HAVE to do SOMETHING. EVERYTHING must be done at YOUR own pace. No one elses.
There is much to live for my friend. So keep trying.
Keep navigating these storms knowing full well they are not permanent. They are only temporal.
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