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Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Hi SANE Community,

This fortnight, we invite you to join our Topic Tuesday on supporting loved ones living with BPD with peer support worker @tyme !

There are many in our community actively seeking support around caring for loved ones living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), often feeling isolated and lost in this process. BPD is a complex mental health issue that can be very distressing for the person and for the friends, family and carers close to them- leading to strained relationships and burn out.

It's important that we can find others with shared experiences so that we don’t feel so alone as we care for our loved ones. This Topic Tuesday will be a space to come together and ask any questions we may have, as well as discuss our experiences and strategies for self care.

Join us so that we can build connections and feel more empowered in our roles.

Please join the discussion here on Tuesday the 25th of January 2022 from 7:00pm-8:30pm AEST to follow this conversation.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

tymeModerator

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Hi @Maybe1 ,

New research is always coming out. Perhaps, in the future, we will have hard evidence that genetics are involved?

Thank you for joining us tonight!

tyme

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Maybe1Casual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Yes absolutely. My husband and I just hold our breath waiting for our 22year old daughters next explosion. Its very hard trying to make sure that her MI does not become ours.

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tymeModerator

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Wow @Farmboy . I totally agree with you! If we could write down the awesome qualities of having BPD and/or caring for a loved one with BPD brings out, we could really celebrate!

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tymeModerator

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Maybe1

Do you and your husband have a support network for yourself?

It is important that you also have an outlet for yourselves.

Later, we will go through some strategies that may help with caring for your loved one.

tyme

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

does BPD come with childhood trauma?

@BlueBay @tyme

I used to wonder about this with my darling coming from a loving home.

But in recent years she has discussed her version of events that happened during her developmental years, no SA (that I am.aware of ) but involving family turmoil.

Moving around a lot, and siblings that were less than model citizens.

So for my darling who is super sensitive from.a very young age, these things were quite traumatic for her.

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BlueBaySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@cloudcore @tyme @Daisydreamer

I have to leave this really interesting topic - i've got another headache!!

i would love to stay until the end by my head is pounding, need to rest up. thanks for this great topic,

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tymeModerator

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Maybe1 ,

Also, whether genetics are or are not involved, BPD is TOTALLY treatable!

People say otherwise, but I've lived it and I know that is is treatable. The main thing is that the pwBPD is ready to put in the hard work and work to make changes.

tyme

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cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Hi @Maybe1 , welcome to the forums. 😊

That sounds really stressful, waiting for the next explosion. I'm wondering if you and your husband have any supports for yourselves?

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cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Question 3: How do you look after yourself when supporting a loved one with BPD? @tyme

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FarmboyCasual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

For me, it has taught me the value of unconditional love, just realise you can care for another vulnerable human being that way and so much is reward in itself. If you can understand the condition and manage your emotions as a carer I think it teaches you to bring out the best in yourself, I treasure my wife's good days so much, on those days I try to set aside time to do fun things together. I am learning that BPD and alcohol are a bad combination
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