A never ending feeling of loneliness

Therealme1,

Your words are heard.

You're pain and sufferance's are heard, and I can assure you the struggle you have been experiencing over your time will be met with some amazing humans on this forum, who get it, and can provide you with some direction, further meaning in this space.

From my end, I'm one of the moderators on this forum, and can assure you, you are heard.

Dockers6

Hi and welcome, @Therealme1 , it's good you've joined.

It sounds to me like you may be experiencing depression? I'm sorry to hear.

I wonder how you would feel about seeing your GP and telling them how you're feeling? They may suggest a medication which would help to remove the hopelessness and make you feel better? Or they may have other ideas which might help.

You do have options, you don't have to feel like this forever.

A handy forum tip is if you type @ it tags the person you're replying to.

Wishing you all the best.

@NatureLover ive seen multiple therapists and all that sort of stuff and been perscribed stuff before and it helps in the moment sometimes but it never changes how i feel or gets rid of that feeling which i suppose is why I feel like im running out of options

@Therealme1

Hello

I like your name. Have you felt like you have been masking your real feelings to fit in. I have done that a lot. Not to the point of being false, but to the point of feeling uncomfortable with myself. I have a much shorter fuse now ... and speaking my mind much more often ...which terrifies me .....but still a pretty long fuse ... my bark is probably way worse than my bite.

I am going to tag some younger forumites to see if they can join in your thread.

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HEy Therealme1

I really relate to what you are saying and identify with that "sense' 'feeling' 'experience' of feeling numb and lonely.

What eventually worked for me was joining many peer groups AA, NA, Alt2su, GROW, eGROW where I met others that related to what I was trying to express and articulate

Another thing I did was lots of Diary writing so I got a really good sense of self and who I was - Some call this an identity

This gave me anchors I could refer back to as what I found for me (and I can only speak to what happens from behind my eyes) was that what I thought was happening and what was really happening in reality were on occasions not in sink with each other

I also had to learn that a feeling is not always a fact and learning how to sit with and be aware of my internal experiences changed my relationship with them

In a nut shell that these feeling would come and go (Think how clouds roll by overhead) I now welcome feelings/moods that are now more like a friend ive come to know rather that a feeling that i cant tolerate at any cost

I found for me also that moods are much the same ie, they eventually pass

All this dosen't really help much I know but it may give you a few clues I have a classic trauma Brain so even though I want to be alone its healing for me to be around like minded people that maybe experiencing similar things

For me I found these people in Peer groups and they taught me to hang in there try different things until I found what works for me and really loved me back into health wellbeing and connectedness

Its great your reaching out keep doing this take a few positive risks and see how things unfold I wish you well finding what you need and encourage you to keep reaching out!

Remember if we want to find butterflies we need to go were they hang out and practice being with/connecting with them in a meaningful way

Keep going hang in there IT works IF you Work IT! :-)))))))))))

It is okay...it is okay to feel like this as I have been down this path, however it took me a long time to acknowledge, understand and be able to reach out for help. Like yourself I was popular at school, very successful in all sports...yet always felt alone, like I didn't fit in or belong anywhere. This only intensified after school.

Happy to help where ever possible.

Some suggestions for you:

1. Ask yourself (honestly) is there any traumatic event that you have experienced or witnessed. For me, this was the key, something that I was trying to forget / avoid at all costs.

2. Reach out to support groups - Kidsline, Lifeline and others.

3. Seek out a counsellor to discuss what you are feeling / experiencing.

4. There is a group Marcus Mission - which can provide you with a Mentor who will work with you. I am a Mentor with them and it is a free and comfortable arrangement, totally driven by you as to how much contact and the frequency of get togethers.

Hope this helps and as I said I am happy to help where ever possible.

Do not give up...you have already shown that you are brave and amazing, by reaching out on this forum.

cheers bearshark