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Living with MI and Making friends

Living with MI and Making friends

Do you find it hard to connect with others or have you lost friends due to having a MI? How do you broach this topic with new friends? How do you know when to open up? I read this insightful article by Michael Hedrick and would love to hear your thoughts about it.

Here's a snippet:

"I have a hard time making friends.

Getting to trust people well enough to call them a friend takes a lot of work. It’s especially hard when you are living with schizophrenia and think everyone is making fun of you.

Schizophrenia is the devil on your shoulder that keeps whispering in your ear and, no matter what you try, the little demon won’t stop. He hasn’t stopped in the almost nine years I’ve lived with the illness, and he’s not about to stop now. He’s just quieted down a bit. I’d call him my companion but that would imply a degree of friendship, and there’s no way in hell I’m the little devil’s friend." (For full article by Michael Hedrick, click here).

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@JT I truly admire the acceptance that you have for yourself, and how expect nothing less from the people that you choose to surround yourself with.

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Being alone in a crowded room is much more enjoyable when you don't have a vested interest

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@Alessandra1992 , I've noticed that the '@' feature to other members did not work in your post. Still can't figure it out, and I have logged the issue with IT. But in the mean time, I thought I'd '@' members for you.

@chemonro @kristin @Uggbootdiva @kato @PeppiPatty @Ma60 - what are your thought in respnse to Alessandra? Hope this makes sense, but I'm tagging you on her behalf.

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Totally re. stop hiring in 30s /40s. so much harder to make new friends in this age group. It takes ages, by which time I have swung either up or down again on the moodometer...

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@JT so so true! re. crowded room.
I don't work like that, but great for you. sound like a lot of self acceptance and wisdom.

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I think it was because she didn't leave a space and put commas straight after?
eg. @chemonro,@cherrybomb,
as opposed to @kato @CherryBomb ?

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Like many here, the trust thing is the biggest hurdle......once it has been abused many times, you do learn....one thing I have learned the hard way is to manage friends in this fashion. I am the centre point like a stone in a pond, and friends are allocated to the rings about me again using the parable of the stone and pond. There are far more on the circle at the outermost ring, and very few on the innermost ring. How they are sorted is the trick of it!

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Have you ever gone out with someone who spent the whole time complaining about the expense and the service and the food and the expense and the expense? And did I mention the prices?!

For me friendship and good times spent together is what makes life worthwhile, and about the only thing I've never regretted spending time and money on. Call it an investment in your mental health!

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Sandy, very wise and true words. Anominity is good because you can ,pardon the phrase, spill your guts, and no one will judge you only offer words of encouragement and or wisdom. This forum is super.

loopy

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There are some beautiful metaphors here..the ripple effect of friendship..sometimes I find it can be a bit of a juggling act, but thanks to our digital era it is a wonderful means of keeping friendships going overseas..mind you, I cannot remember the last time I wrote a letter and posted it!
A moodometer..what a great tool!
My son invented a mumometer that measured where he thought I was..happy, sad, angry, explosive..was a real eye opener but over time we've taught each other that if you carry on like pork chop..yep, mum will crack it..
Friends whingeing about the price of spending time together..sometimes money can be a real constraint for us depending on our income..and sometimes it's cathartic to whibge about something we do have control over..how we send our money! Reminds me of Monty Python skit "is this the right room for an argument?".
What I really enjoy about being here, is our support of each other..so whilst we may not have many close face to face friends, we have quite a few here!!
And I am convinced of the merits in the quality of friendship, that you s is mutual, equal and definitely takes time..
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