Things you shouldn't say to someone with a mental illness

'A few things that give me a rise:
"Ok, you don't have to lose your temper, you need to control it better!"
"Hey hey! Excuse me, watch your language there!" (As if screaming at me is going to reduce my already escolating stress and anxiety).
"How does that make you feel?" (So, does this mean to say you don't really care how I feel, you just want to get an answer out of me to change the subject? Is the question actually genuine because you care, or because you want to dismiss me?)
"I'm sorry to hear that."
"Are you upset with the situation or are you just having a moment?"

There are too many things. But what does help is when people use a caring voice tone instead of a flat, uninterested, invalidating tone behind what they say. Also being clear instead of being vague, then expecting me to figure out the confusion. Please just be straight with me while showing me that you care.

@Former-Member I get crabby with people who tell me, "you know, everybody has problems." Excuse me, well then, stop downplaying my problems then thank you! (My immediate thought after people say this crap to me, sometimes I actually say it out loud). I've also heard, "people have it a lot worse than you. You should be grateful that you can even feed yourself and you have arms and legs!" My response: "Um, hey! Does this mean that you don't care about people unless they are super unwell or passing on in front of you?" (I say a lot worse offline). I'm also quick to remind people of how little their outward show of concern is for me when it's not genuine. I like people to mean what they say to me. I like honesty.

@chibam I still haven't yet found a psychologist who hasn't created more stigma for people with mental illness. They all do it. The few people who haven't done this to me are my current GP and a few very good support workers. The rest of the mental health profession are just in it for the money.
I also can't tolerate people who tell me to take less medication. Why? because they think my behaviour is purely premeditated and suddenly the person knows all about medicines? Believe me, my offline opinions are unfiltered and I definitely am outspoken and do upset many, many people.