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Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

Hi all,

I'm new to all this I have never talked to anyone about my husband's mental illness. My husband of 4 years of Marriage and 11 years in a relationship suffers from OCD and Anxiety.

The anxiety is mainly when having to travel a distance from the house or not wanting to go anywhere by himself so we go everywhere together. The going everywhere together has been getting to me lately, I need my space but how do you tell that to someone that has major anxiety if you even attempt to leave.

The OCD I don't think helps the anxiety because as he puts it, it's like having a evil voice telling you want to do and if you ignore that voice it gets worse and louder.

I just don't know how to help, I'm feeling burnt out and stuck.

#anxiety #OCD

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@Shaz51 thanks for talking and saying it's ok to lie.

We don't have a bath so my way is to stand in the shower and have my head directly under the water and let it run all over my face.

I don't really have hobbies nowadays. I like watching Netflix and Disney Plus. I watch TV mostly by myself so I guess that's my me time at the moment. I am thinking of taking up running but I suffer Asthma so I don't know how that will go.

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Re: Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

Yes @HopefulWife , I only have a shower now since we have moved in with my elderly mum who has undiagnosed dementia

Netflix and tv sounds good, how about just walking

My Mr shaz OCD flares up when he is anxious

My other one is having a nice cuppa outside xx

Hve you any furbabies?

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Re: Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

Hello @HopefulWife and welcome to the forum.

I’m sorry life is so hard at present and that you desperately need a break,

I have asthma and so long as it’s stable and I have my puffer in my pocket I can go for a run or walk each day to get some headspace. It really helps most of the time.

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@Shaz51

I find walking doesn't give me the same relaxed feeling as running does, I guess I feel like when I'm running I can run away from everything.

My husband is the other way his OCD flares up his anxiety. He gets intrusive and unrational thoughts, mostly about other people's safety like if he doesn't do this then this person will get hurt. For example today he was worried that with the bins out on the street for collection and our cat going outside that someone was going to catch her and throw her in the bin.

The answer your question about furbabies we have a 5yr old Kelpie and a 6yr crazy cat

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Re: Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

@Eve7

Thanks for the support and I will give it a go, just need to remember to bring puffer and I guess don't push to hard

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Re: Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

One step at a time my friends xx @HopefulWife , @Eve7

My husband is totally worried about lots of things tonight

He is putting lots of fairy lights around tonight

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Re: Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

@Shaz51

Completely agree one step, one day at a time.

Sorry if to curious and feel free not to answer. Is the fairy lights for Christmas or a coping thing?

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Re: Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

Ha ha fairy lights for Christmas @HopefulWife , @Eve7

But my husband has bipolar 2 as well so he is in a high at the moment when he buys things

And tonight he has checked the locks already

Will tag @NatureLover as she may help with OCD too

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Re: Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

@Shaz51

Fairy lights are pretty but I feel like he would worry about a fire happening.

My husband is an impulse buyer and a mild hoarder so he will buy things we don't need and buys multiple but he thinks maybe one day we might need it.

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Re: Burnt Out Wife, OCD and Anxiety Husband

Same here @HopefulWife

We have even picked up things along the highway he may spot and have put them in the shed for the future

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