Caring for Someone Living with Dementia

Hi @Shaz51, I've just caught up with this thread. I hope you're having a better few days with you mum, it sounds like maybe this morning is off to an okay start?

@TideisTurning, @Former-Member , @Former-Member , @BlueBay , @mishyanne73

omg patience - yes that was very hard for my hubby towards his mum

@Shaz51 xx

yes totally agree @BlueBay

patience, my aunty get cranky with her sister ( my mum )

I am ok most of the time , but upset me when she says things to me

i try to remember it is the dementai talking not her , but it is soo hard

and it upsets mr shaz to see me upset

I think the biggest thing @BlueBay , @Former-Member

is when they say the unexpected things you are off so surprised that i dont know how to respond

Oh I can empathise with that one, @Shaz51. Many a time my loved one will say some quite cutting/surprising, and you do not want to be standing in line for those! I try to remember that this is her brain misfiring, it isn't her, and that really helps to take the sting out/not personalise it.

Hugs to you and your mum, @Shaz51. Did you manage to have a nice Xmas?

yes @Former-Member

Step D1 and SIL came in the morning

had christmas morning tea with mum

it was nice christmas lunch at my cousins

mum did not come as she finds the steps too hard and there were too many

soo you can imagine what we came home to

but then i found the real reason behind it as she was in lots of pain ( she has reoccuring bowel obstructions and she had broken her hip a few years ago ) but would not go to the hospital

she know what to do and it should be better by morning

Oh no, the poor thing, and hugs to you for supporting her through that @Shaz51 💚

Hope you had a nice Christmas and a holiday @Former-Member

Our holiday was relaxing

We have cut back on our workload as I am mum's carer And Mr shaz MI is stress

He had a sleep this afternoon

I did, thank you @Shaz51. It was a quiet one, which is a little different for me, and it was so good to recharge. Glad you're getting your rest in, you deserve it 😊