Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

47,612Members
1,358,869Posts
1,400,000Visitors

Something’s not right

Do people touch you on purpose?

Unknown userMember24 Nov 2021, 1:47 pm AEDT

Do people touch you on purpose?

Sorry, bit of a weird question....

But I've noticed more recently that people will touch you, and make it look like an accident.

I was just out shopping to get something for my mum and myself to eat, and these 2 guys were in front of me, I smiled on the inside and as I went to get something to order, one of the guys brushes past me touching his arm with mine, and I knew instanteanously it was on purpose as its happened before with certain types of people. And as he walked past me after collecting his food he had to force himself to be hard to get past me, not very natural. I think its because people know I have a MH issue, I dont try to hide it.

Just wondering if its just me or if people experience these things and is it a resllience problem/MH concern?

15 replies

1 - 10 of 15

1 2

In response to: Do people touch you on purpose?

GwynnSenior Contributor24 Nov 2021, 3:04 pm AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

As far as I know, it’s a “young female thing” - you’re not giving off enough “sod off vibes”.

In response to: Do people touch you on purpose?

wellwellwellnezSenior Contributor24 Nov 2021, 3:24 pm AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

Shouldn't even be close enough to bump in to you. We've still got Delta roaming around. Double yuk!

In response to: Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

Unknown userMember24 Nov 2021, 4:21 pm AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

@Gwynn @wellwellwellnez I will focus on the big picture, I guess worse things happen. thanks for your response.

In response to: Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

GwynnSenior Contributor24 Nov 2021, 4:35 pm AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

You could try coughing a bit when these guys get too close to you - that should get them to back off a bit.

In response to: Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor24 Nov 2021, 8:01 pm AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

Lol @Gwynn @wellwellwellnez .... cough and sneeze should do the trick!

I can't say I've had your experience @Former-Member ... maybe it's the serious look on my face that I'm not to be messed with. If ppl bump me, I fly into fury and tell ppl off. I know it's not ideal, but it's me - for now. Esp during covid!

In response to: Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

BunniekinsSenior Contributor24 Nov 2021, 9:14 pm AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

@BPDSurvivor @Former-Member @Gwynn @wellwellwellnez I am basically a shut in so dont have these problems

In response to: Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor24 Nov 2021, 9:22 pm AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

Yeah, if I could, I would @Bunniekins . I just do the bare minimum trips to the shops... there's certain shopping strips I limit to once a month or so because it seems like the people just don't get it!

I need new shoes, and I keep putting it off because I don't want to battle the crowds.

A 7am trip to the supermarket was good because no one was there!!!

In response to: Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

BunniekinsSenior Contributor24 Nov 2021, 9:25 pm AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

@BPDSurvivor yes I go into panic attack if I am amongst groups of people .... I know the feeling my friend.

In response to: Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

Unknown userMember24 Nov 2021, 9:37 pm AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

@Gwynn @Bunniekins @BPDSurvivor my initial thought is self control, when they walk past me a second time, they know they've made a mistake and I can sense it. But it's a battle no body wins - I wish I could scold em by talking, but my talk is more positive, and don't like talking when I feel negative cause nothing good comes out. Seems just I'm making enemies everywhere I go now and visiting those places again isn't pleasant, I guess that's what it's come to

In response to: Do people touch you on purpose?

ClawdeSenior Contributor25 Nov 2021, 11:31 am AEDT

Re: Do people touch you on purpose?

Hello @Former-Member I am sorry that this has happened to you, no one but no one is allowed to touch us anymore we are alive in 2021 I like the read of pretending that you are coughing that is Gold!
look after you, you are important very smart and a beautiful person look after you but keep being kind as you are 👍

1 - 10 of 15

1 2

SANE Forums is published by SANE with funding from the Australian Government Department of Health.

SANE Forums does not provide crisis support.
If you need immediate assistance, please see available crisis services.

Learn more about SANE and SANE services at sane.org

Aboriginal flag

Torres Strait Islander flag

Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.

Aboriginal flag

Torres Strait Islander flag

Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.