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I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

MDTSenior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 12:34 pm AEDT

I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

I think I feel overwhelmed with all the things going on in my life at the moment.

While it's good to have "things" going on, I still feel overwhelmed. Think this is due to my mindset and my attitude towards what is happening.

In a list this is what is happenig:

- I start a new full time job next Monday and I am worried it will be majoirty work from home - which I really do not like 😕 and I am worried that it will effect me negatively because of this fact. I was told there will be 1 day of work in the office, but I really really want that to be working in the office majority of the time. I am worried there are so many apple carts that could be upset

- my analyst role is going okay, but just as I feel that I am really doing some good work it feels like it's going to conflict with my new work which will be quite demanding due to it being full time

- I have started chatting with a girl from an app and I am worred things may be accelerating way too fast. I also feel like it's a "situation" waiting to happen. I really don't know where I stand with any of it, but I am also aware that if I keep on shutting myself out to this sort of thing then it'll be a circle of crap where I end up feeling alone. So I'm just really apprehensive about anything at all really

- The further study next year will be good, but it is full time and it's possibly quite accelerated. That's a bridge I am yet to cross because I still need to get my stupid transcript from the place I was "studying" at this year in order to actually get accepted. Then I also need to wait on the government funding to be approced which could take me all the way to Jan. It's just a "thing" that's hanging over my head and I can't do anything to speed it up because the institution is still taking its own sweet time to do nothing. I'm actually quite angry about it tbh.

- I feel this week is getting away from me fast and I still have things to do.

- I want to get back into an exercise regime and it's going to change next week anyway. I am bout to go to gym now to help my mood.

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MDTSenior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 4:36 pm AEDT

Re: I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

please do join @MIFANTCARER

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MDTSenior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 4:36 pm AEDT

Re: I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

cheers @ArtistZ

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MDTSenior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 4:36 pm AEDT

Re: I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

join up @frog
seems like there is recuring theme hey?

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 5:07 pm AEDT

Re: I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

@MDT @frog @MIFANTCARER @ArtistZ ❣️

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Tinker67Senior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 6:04 pm AEDT

Re: I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

hello @MDT

I'd like to offer congrats on the new job you are starting, but I can understand why you feel average and depressed, you've got so much going on.

Sometimes if I am overwhelmed/overthinking I find it helpful to do a 'brain dump' and write everything down that I'm thinking about (as you have done in your message today) and then categorise each thing that I'm thinking about, and decide if I need to think about it now, or if I can schedule a time to think about it later, when it is more relevant. Then I put it in my calendar as a future task.

I wonder how you are going to fit in everything that you want to do, it sounds like with a full time job, another job in analytics, full time study in 2022, and a new relationship, that you might need to invent about 4 extra days in your week to fit it all in?

I admire your resolve to go to the gym, I need to start swimming again, I've been putting it off. And yes, great that you changed your plans today and cleared the decks to take pressure off yourself. Sometimes it truly is all that we need, to be able to breathe and not be rushing off to something.

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MDTSenior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 6:33 pm AEDT

Re: I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

Hey @Tinker67
Thank you for your well thought reply

At the moment I'm just outside. Had a reasonably productive day.

Where I live I come to sit on the balcony and look at the green of the surrounds with sunlight in it. I feel peaceful

I like how you said I need to fit an extra 4 days a week 8n to do what I'm doing.

I agree. It just means I need to replace things. Get rid of it maybe. And also some aren't even starting yet.

Perhaps it would be best to search for a deeper answer as to why I feel pressured to do so much.

Maybe it's best right now to do this hey.

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Tinker67Senior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 7:22 pm AEDT

Re: I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

your green twilight spot on your balcony sounds lovely. Yep, I reckon, just do that. 🙂

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wellwellwellnezSenior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 7:26 pm AEDT

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It's ironic. But sometimes when we kick more goals, we forget that it's a journey. Sometimes (and lately), the better I do the less I give myself a break or a pat on the back. Feels like maybe you're doing the same. I guess new journeys have new dissonances. Guess they always will. Maybe that's okay. Maybe that's part of what makes life's hunger.

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ArtistZSenior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 8:13 pm AEDT

Re: I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

Hey @MDT

Your balcony sounds beauitful 🌳🌞

It does sounds like you put a great deal of pressure on yourself - I'm sort of at the other end of the scale right now because I don't have a formal structure of things that need to get done each day (aside from general living tasks) and I feel a bit lost right now.
There has to be a happy balance somewhere, I hope?

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oceangirlSenior Contributor09 Nov 2021, 8:39 pm AEDT

Re: I can't articulate why I feel so average and depressed

@MDT Sorry to hear you're struggling with your feelings and also being depressed. I am feeling similar emotions too. One step at a time. In terms of dating- its up to you as welll - how quickly the relationship progresses or if at all. But keep in mind many of us feel insecure at the start of something new (relationship). I would say to be open and honest with her and be upfront with your expectations and what you want from the relationship- I hope you find a really nice girl.

Remember not to overthink things and make time for the people in your life that support you too and have some time for yourself too. Keep going Hams you're doing great. I am very proud of you.

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