PekingpandazCasual Contributor
Daughter Has BPD and has kept it a secret
I don't really know why I am here. I just know that I have had the worst couple days. My daughter and her partner live with me and were constantly fighting to the point that they get physical with each other. My daughter is the one who lashes out and starts hitting her partner, biting him, punching, kicking him, pulling his hair and calling him nasty names. I have tried to let them sort out their relationship and only step in when physical side starts happening. But I have told them that I cannot live with the violence as I am a domestic violence survivor and it scares me. So it happened again 2 days ago and I have explained that they had one last chance and if it happened again with physical violence that her partner would have to move out until we can figure out how we can improve things. I asked Her partner to move out 2 days ago when all this started again and he did, he went to a hotel and then my daughter went and stayed at the hotel with him and then yesterday at 8 am I get a video call from her she has blood running down her face and says mum can you come get me she was histerical and starts telling me that look at what he did, I was was in shock and I start crying over the video call and then I tell her I am on my way. I get another call 5 min later and I am visably still really shaken and really unsure and she asks me what's wrong mum and I said what do U mean? You just video called me and there is blood coming down your face. That's what's wrong and she says no it's ok don't panic it was just a accident and tries to tell me she accidentally hit her head while trying to pick up her bag. At this point she is so calm and my head is spinning. I get to the hotel the same time as the ambulance and she tells them this story that she accidentally hit her head while picking up a bag and they take her to hospital. I meet them there but cannot go in. I asked to see the doctor to talk to him and he comes out. I ask him did she tell you what happened? He said yeh she hit her head while picking up her bag. I said no that's not correct, and I explained that she has BPD and that she gets very violent and attacks her partner and retaliates back to her. I told him about previous situations and the day before and tell him she has a history of depression anxiety and some psychological issues and she isn't taking any medication. Then my daughter calls me from inside the emergency room I am outside the hospital and tells me I am a piece of shit why would I tell him all that it's all lies and I start crying again. I don't know what to do anymore. I need help. I want her to be ok. I want my son in law to be ok. He is so scared of her. Everyone is scared of her. She also smokes weed which doesn't help but she won't stop. She won't take medication. Anyone please.
