Just venting

I am sorry that you are going through this @Powderfinger .......but I am not surprised. A counter accusation of DV is quite textbook for abusive people.....they are very predictable and not very bright.

I don't have much to offer right now as I am in deep grief and sadness myself, but wish you all the best. These sorts of circumstances scare you off intimate relationships forever, there's only so much hurt one person can take, Corny

@Corny

I knew it was going to come, I just didn't want to believe it. Even though I knew doesn't stop me from basically wishing she would just disappear off the face of the earth never to return. But anyway perjury is the order of the day it seems.

I'm sorry to hear you are not doing well. Take care of yourself and hope you make a recovery soon.

It fundamentally changes you and you will never be able to function well in a relationship for a very long time, if ever. Pathological and psychopathic narcissist liar.

- Try being the victim of an undiagnosed narcissist. - - Try being the victim of horrific abuse by a narcissist.

- Try being the victim that is granted an FVRO to protect you from the narcissist.

- Try knowing what it is like to have told the full truth in your affidavit and having all the evidence to back up truthful facts of horrendous abuse.

- Try having a retaliatory and false FVRO granted to the narcissist against the real victim of abuse.

- Try reading the lies and false allegations written about you in the narcissists affidavit in the FVRO application and knowing there is no evidence to support the false allegations of supposed abuse you commited against them.

- Try having the narcissist object to the FVRO that was granted to the victim.

- Try having the narcissist play games with you through the system by calling up the courthouse saying they are no longer going to object to the FVRO but will not put it in writing. As it is not in writing the FVRO still remains objected to.

- Try the experience of trying to think how you are going to pay for a lawyer because you need one to fight the narcissist in court but financially they have completely decimated you and they know it. Object of the game. Make you to weak to fight.

- Try knowing that you may be lucky to find a bit of money to pay a lawyer so you can fight in court, only to have them walk into the courthouse at any time after you have spent a substantial amount of money, only to be told that there are no consequences for the perpetrator doing that.

- Try being in suicide therapy because all you can think about is wanting to take your life everyday because of what you've been put through and continue to be put through.

- Try not being able to function properly anymore, loss of memory and some cognitive processes, loss of career that you worked hard for, loss of what you thought were friends, very few people believing you because how could anyone be that vile, evil and severely nasty, you must be the problem and crazy to even suggest anything mildly crazy.

- Try being served a false FVRO granted to the narcissist and having three cops show up at your door on the day of your birthday.

- Try any legal Avenue that is free that you can think of only to be turned away everytime you ask for help.

- Try having no one in your corner.

- Try going to bed every night after a long day, alone and all you can think about is that you must don't even want to be alive anymore.

- Try all of that and then maybe you will have some idea of the hell I'm living in daily.

@Powderfinger You sound like an incredibly resilient person to have lived through so much. I'm so sorry that this person has made you feel so alone and powerless and that you haven't been well supported. I really hope things turn around for you soon.

@moxi

Although to most people resiliency seems to be a compliment to someone's nature, it isn't. To me, O near it a thousand times, in therapy, in sharing my story if and when I want to and in other ways. Oh how amazing you are, oh how inspirational, how resilient, you are so strong.

I will tell you some truths. As nice as it is intended to be, it smacks of ignorance and certainly does not attend to the prices paid and the damage caused to a person. Nor the brokeness a person feels.

The only reason I havn't ended my life to be honest with everyone here is the fear that it won't work. The fear that I will wake up right back in hell.

So, if anyone really wants to be supportive maybe drop the oh how resilient you are and actually listen to someone's story. That's respect and that's true support.

I don't say this in anger, I say it as truth and for people to be presented with the challenge in themselves to see things from other angles. To grow.

What people choose to do with it, is not my problem and none of my business.

Tired of the age old sayings of bullshit lines that carry no meaning and is not supportive like people think it is.

It's simply a matter of truth, perception, reality.

Hi @Powderfinger

I know what you mean. Some of the platitudes people throw our way are so frustating.I know for me, many different things have kept me alive. For a while there it was spite, to be perfectly honest. But the fact of the matter is I am here now and I am glad. And if fear is what keeps you around I am also glad you are here too.

Are you feeling safe at the moment?

I agree with what you said that people need to do more listening. Hear to listen if you need an ear.
- periwinklepixie

@Former-Member

Whatever kept you alive when you didn't want to be, so be it. I observe that spite as you termed it, came more from a place of power in you. A way of saying I am not going to let what you have done define my outcome. It does not take away from the fact all you needed to go through to still make that outcome happen. Going through it is hell.

I'm fine thanks.

Listening is a skill. Not many are good at it.

@MrsFahey

As a result of her serious and severe narcissism and the traits that come with it, she has lost the battle already. See, the things is this person is dumb. I'm not meaning that as an insult. The person is actually dumb. Stupid. No brains.

It's obvious. Her writing style is how a three years olds writing is and that is a compliment. It's messy, letters aren't formed properly, there is terrible spelling, grammar is appalling and there is no punctuation.

Also, to mention her sentence structure lefts alot to be desired.

This is fact right here. As a result of her ways, lies, pathological, psychopathic, having zero control of her rage, nor being able to regulate emotions at all, plus the fact that she didn't think at all about how serious it is to make false allegations by oath and swore they were true, she has lost already.

As a result of all that, there was and is a complete lack to think strategically in a positive way that would favor an outcome that would work in her favor.

What she failed to realise, think about or understand is that she is dealing with a person that has a very high intelligence quota and possesses qualities that she does not have nor is capable of having.

What she failed to realise, think about or understand is that for every false allegations she has made, I have strong evidence that clearly shows and suggests they are fabrications of the truth, obvious lies and that she has commited perjury. The evidence is beyond strong, it's not defensible and she has no proof of her allegations. So, she has committed a crime. Making false allegations with no proof is a criminal offence.

As for me my FVRO which I took out first is truthful, factual, it all happened and I have every bit of evidence to support each allegation. It clearly shows I have told the truth, I took an oath to tell the truth and I did. No one can say I have lied.

So, to sum it all up politely even though I would not like to be polite is this saying. Loose lips, sink ships.

Last but not least, she is screwed, has dug her own grave and will continue to do so.

I have no more to say. Case closed.