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Super stressed about money and work.

PowderfingerSenior Contributor17 Sept 2021, 6:49 pm AEST

Super stressed about money and work.

I need help, support and advice.

I'm SUPER stressed about money and work. When I was with the super bit...h I had no time for work. I always had to be with her, could never my life or work.

I had/have a business. That went south because of her massive control and possessiveness. I missed my business and work so much. Now that I can get back to work, the extensive damage she has caused has made this very difficult for me. I hate her. I feel like I want to take all her money as compensation r everything I lost and continue to lose. But oh no nothing she did was a crime in the laws eyes. What a load of horse sh...t. it should be a crime. Abuse no matter what type should be a crime in Australia, not a civil matter. Nothing civil about it.

So, Im struggling financially and things are getting worse. This is causing me more stress, anxiety and I want to break down and cry everyday.

I need to work. I need extra money coming in. I hate this for me. I hear nothing but her voice in my head constantly.

Please help me and support me so I can get past this to work. I can't do everything alone.

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PowderfingerSenior Contributor20 Sept 2021, 3:10 pm AEST

Re: Super stressed about money and work.

@Lost9

I think decent and good people would like to be able to take others pain away. I have been there many times myself. From wisdom gleaned of my personal experiences as much as we may want to we cannot. Some people truly do not want to be helped. With some people you are nothing more but a punching bag for their pain and simply an object to be abused.

I have learnt that people need to be and can be healers of their own life. What I or others can do is do simple, little things for a person that is worthy of it. It's the little things too that can make a big difference.

I salt quietly today and thought about my second therapy session I'm having tomorrow. I remember bits and pieces of my first one last week. So, in order for me to move forward, I wrote some dot points for my session tomorrow.

I will be handing these things to the therapist. Tomorrow for me is about getting to the bottom of whether this is going to be the right therapist for me or not. I've had extensive experience in this area and over a very long period. I will see how the session goes tomorrow. I will see how I'm feeling after it and decided from my list and the session whether or not I'm going to continue and if she is right for me.

If I feel that it is not going to be right for me, if this therapist is not going to be able to deliver my goals for therapy and has no knowledge of NPD or any other personality disorders, knowledge about psychopaths or sociopaths, then I know she isn't right for me and I will be finding another therapist that is.

Perhaps it will all go well and she may turn out being right for me? I won't know till tomorrow. It truly is entirely pointless sitting with the wrong therapist and hoping to get well and sort through the horror you've experienced. Waste of my time and theirs. Not ever doing that. Therapy for this is going to be hard enough.

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Lost9Senior Contributor20 Sept 2021, 3:46 pm AEST

Re: Super stressed about money and work.

Hi @Powderfinger ,

it sounds as though you have had a productive day. Best of luck for tomorrow. I hope the session goes well.

Best wishes,

lost9

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