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Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Hi SANE community,

This fortnight we will be having a discussion on healthy relationships, but specifically in the context of lockdowns, which affect many of us across Australia today. Our guest speaker, a relationship counsellor, will be here to speak on boundaries, communication skills and conflict resolution to guide those of you who may be struggling to sustain harmony and connection with family, partners or roommates when stuck in the home.

The last two years have been really tough with a novel virus circulating the world, and extended and frequent lockdowns being snapped in place. Mental health organisations, like SANE, Lifeline and 1800 RESPECT have shown that lockdowns have caused significant hardship and stress on individuals whether that be financially, physically or emotionally, and the effects of that hardship and stress are becoming more apparent in the home and in relationships.

This Topic Tuesday will hold space for us to discuss boundaries and ways to communicate with those in our lives to mend and/or maintain a healthy relationship dynamic when we’re stuck sharing the same space. It may be an important and valuable topic for those who have experienced, might be experiencing or could experience a relationship breakdown in lockdown.

Please join us here on Tuesday the 31st of August 2021 from 7:00pm-8:30pm AEST to follow this conversation.

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We recognise that situations at home and in relationships are at various stages, and we welcome everyone to bring their experiences to this space. If you are experiencing a situation at home puts your safety at risk, please contact emergency services or contact 1800 RESPECT for referrals and additional support. This discussion will more generally discuss ideas around boundaries and relationship communication skills, however we will also provide information on resources that may be available to you.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

For me @Former-Member

I need to think before I talk , and picking the right time is important and also I will throw In suggestions and then say no more until the next opportunity @cloudcore , @Daisydreamer

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

@Former-Member yeah thats true, and i have noticed a few late night discussions here that I could join in.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST


@JungleGiants wrote:
It sure is @Daisydreamer, and different in most situations ive found. Not really an option to ignore people at work if they annoy you..

Why not? LOL. Meh? If you ignore them, hopefully they'll leave you alone 🙂 Jokes

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Question 5: What do you do if you feel unsafe? What supports are available?

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Question 5: What do you do if you feel unsafe? What supports are available?

If you feel unsafe during or after an argument or anticipate that you would not be safe if you communicate and enforce your boundaries, contact a support line about how to best manage the situation.

1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

The Line 1800 695 463 (1800 MYLINE)

SANE Australia 1800 187 263 (Managing relationship where mental health issues are present)

WIRE 1300 134 130

Face to face counselling

If you are currently unsafe, please contact 000 for emergency services. In states like NSW and Victoria, you are also allowed to leave home for safety reasons and to seek out DFV related services during lockdown.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

@BPDSurvivor hahaha, if only.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Sorry, @Daisydreamer . It wasn't my intention to try to hijack the conversation off into another direction.

I should have kept the language within the topic-at-hand bounds of small-scale relationships, where the overall concept is still extremely relevant (IMHO, at least).

e.g. If, within my own household, I want to go, but the other people there want me to stay - why is it wrong for me to do what's right for me?

(Edit: Apologies if this is still OT. Feel free to ignore this if it is.)

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Question 6: What are some ways to look after ourselves after household/relationship conflict? What are your best tips for self-care?

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

I have found it great that video and voice calls are back, even if they cant replace face to face contact. Thats something good ive found in lockdown 2

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Healthy Relationships in Lockdown // Tues 31st August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Question 6: What are some ways to look after ourselves after household/relationship conflict? What are your best tips for self-care?

  • Consider what you need after a fight
    • A walk to clear your head
    • Space from the other person
    • A hug from a safe person
    • Chatting to a safe person
    • Crying
    • Hugging a stuffed toy
  • Have a healthy meal
  • Clean a window
  • Do a chore
  • Think about what makes you happy and make a list:
    • Do one of these things when you’ve had a conflict
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