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Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Hi SANE Community,

This fortnight we welcome Griefline as our special guests for a Topic Tuesday on Grief and Loss. Griefline support Australians experiencing grief, offering support through their helpline and online community.

Grief and Loss:

Grief is a natural response to the loss of something or someone important to us. At some point in our lives, every person will experience grief and loss in some way.

While we all experience loss and grief, the emotional and physical pain when we lose something or someone we love will be felt differently from person to person, and often from loss to loss.

This Topic Tuesday will hold space for us to discuss the grief and loss we have felt in our lives, how we have coped and what we can do to support a loved one who might be experiencing grief.

Please join us here on Tuesday the 3rd of August 2021 from 7:00pm-8:30pm AEST to follow this conversation.

Want to receive a reminder on the night? Hit the 'Support' button below.

New to the forums or want to get involved in this discussion? Check out the How To Guide for Topic Tuesdays.

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This topic is an important one for those who have experienced, might be experiencing or could experience loss. While each of us have different experiences of grief and loss, we want to make sure that this space is an open and respectful space to hold all of our experiences. Before joining this discussion, we would encourage you to familiarise yourself with the community guidelines so we can make this space as supportive as possible.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Silver linings - Yes @Zoe7

They are there - I still miss my old cat - it's nearly 3 years since she died - I don't want to replace her yet - if ever - she was a very special cat

Your furry family is precious too

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Time and space to "go through" grief is such an important point @Zoe7

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Aww thank you @Zoe7 . I think I've shared too much tonight.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

@Adge

@Shaz51

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

The losses pile up @Shaz51

Finding one of your clients would be hard - it's important to give all of these things space in our hearts - and give them time - we need that time to heal

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

While we are getting answers coming through from the community about ways of coping, I might pass to you Amanda to tell us a bit more about supporting a loved one.

Question 5 @amandaGL How do you support a loved one experiencing grief?

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

No Hon I don't believe you have @Eve7 It is sometimes really good to be part of these things and be able to get it out - so pleased you are here with us tonight

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

@Owlunar I can completely relate to you with this one. I lost my dog who meant the world to me last december and I'm still not ready to get another dog. It's important that we do that in our own time and don't rush the process.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Question 5 @amandaGL How do you support a loved one experiencing grief?

Our basic human nature is to quickly respond to people who are in distress. However, it’s important to remember that this is something you can’t fix - as nothing you do will bring them back or restore what they’ve lost.

But you can be supportive. Don’t be afraid to say or do the wrong thing - not doing anything is worse. Too often we shy away from people who are grieving - leaving them feeling abandoned when they need us most.

Be led by them – whether they want to talk, cry, be silent or angry… sit in that space with them. If you don’t know what to say be honest; “I have no comprehension of what you’re going through right now but I am here for you”. Please don’t ever say “I know what you’re going through” – this can be very dismissive of a person’s UNIQUE grief experience.

Talk about the person they’ve lost – reminisce about their good qualities and the good times you had with them. Share photos and videos of them, play their favourite music, tell their worst jokes! etc. Just because the person has died doesn’t mean the memory of them should be lost.

And be patient, there is no time limit on grief - no one should ever be pressured to “move on” or “get over it”.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Grief and Loss // Tues 3rd August, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Sounds like you have some beautiful rituals @Eve7

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