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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello everyone 
What things have you got in place to help you daily with everything that is going on in our lives whn you are feeling anxious, worried , yuk, concerned, annoyed, in a panic,
self care is soo inportant for us all
it is not being selfish , it is very much needed to keep us keeping on
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SmcSenior Contributor
@outlander, hugs...
Myself, I'm going OK with it. Lockdown actually equates to being partially "off duty" as carers, since Older Daughter lives half an hour's drive away. We're still providing a lot of phone support, but can't be on call to drive her places. Our Younger Daughter, however, finds being stuck at home without her usual friendship group hard. They're also 30+ minutes drive away...
Take care peoples. Hope you can all find enough positives to help balance out the hard stuff.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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SmcSenior Contributor
@outlanderShe does plenty of face time and social media stuff, but it's not the same. And she's a bit lost when it comes to "amusing herself". She's not in a good patch right now.
She catches up with one friend in town by going out on walks as their allowed exercise time.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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SJT63Senior Contributor
@MDT
luckily I am not locked down...
or unluckily as the case may be... it was Mr S's eldest 18th yesterday and we had to go. As there were members of the boy's mother's family there as well, he has a lot of unresolved (in his opinion) conflict with them. I'm please to report he kept all his anger in check while we were out, not always the case.
I like it better when we can't leave the house tbh. Much less stressful than wondering when security or the police will be called every time we venture out.
Hope you are doing ok.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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TideisTurningSenior Contributor
Hey @MDT,
I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time today. Could I clarify what you mean when you say 'last legs'?
I want to encourage you to reach out for extra support if what you're feeling starts to become too distressing. There's Lifeline (13 11 14), Beyond Blue (1300 224636) or SANE's Helpcentre is open until 10pm this evening if you'd just like to connect with someone 1:1 non-urgently. SANE also has peer support services available to connect with someone who has a lived experience of mental health issues via email, webcat or phone (book a call)- more on that at this link.
In the mean time, wishing you whatever strength you may need to get through. All the very best,
TideisTurning 🌼
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MDTSenior Contributor
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TideisTurningSenior Contributor
Not great @MDT. Hearing your tired and holding hope that things will improve for you soon.
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RipplesSenior Contributor
Dear @MDT, I have days that are beyond awful myself. For me, calling Lifeline is part of my self help ritual for when things are beyond the pale. When days are really bad I have a shower by moonlight, watching the moon, stars and flying foxes overhead. In summer, the flying foxes fly over my bathroom window at dusk. Awesome. Once, when I was in the shower I saw a real shooting star flash from south to north, exploding over the bush near my house. A long shower, a hot chocolate and medicines to help me sleep are my common routine. I also find that eating meals comprised of fresh ingredients are a great way to feel nourished. Next week, when I have more money, I am going to my local Woolworths and I am going to spoil myself with a cheap seafood platter from lobster tails, king aussie prawns, fresh scallops and salmon or tuna fillets. I really love butterflies prawns marinated in garlic, chilli and olive oil cooked on the grill. I have learned that you have to do nice things for yourself sometimes... or maybe lots.
I hope you feel good soon.
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