Partner (BPD) is harming my (BP1) recovery

hello and welcome to the forum @Fakename43

letting you know that you are not alone my friend

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@BPDSurvivor, @bipolarbunny , @eth , @Mazarita , @frog

Hi @Fakename43

but is there any way I can get him to take me seriously @Fakename43

I'm not sure how much more serious you can get than BP1 - half my family has it, it has been in my family for generations.

There seems to be some huge imbalances in your relationship and your post reads as if your partner can't handle the spotlight not being on them, and doesn't really have any capacity for self-reliance or ability to provide care, as opposed to receiving it. Also sounds like they haven't been actively engaging in their treatment and they are resigned to the fact that this is their and yours life now.

But then again, the fact that they are in a relationship at all and that they pursued it to begin with indicates that all isn't lost. But it is a bit glaring that you say you have noticed a definite decline in your health since you got together and that the home environment is so destabilising that it impacts your treatment to that degree......but then again you're still there aren't you, so your action in that regard speaks for itself.

I don't know what to suggest.....depending on if you can afford it, a voluntary inpatient admission may give you some rest. You may be able to get day leave from the private clinic to have TMS off-site and return to the ward for the evening. My memory is hazy but I thought I heard a patient say they did this when I was in hospital. The private system is imperfect, you may have to wait to get in, or be too sick for a private facility, but some people do travel interstate to other hospitals....there were a lot of people from interstate.

I probably haven't helped much but it is a tough situation, I don't know what 'splitting' is naybe a member with BPD would be a better help - Corny

@Fakename43

I am so sorry for your situation.
I too am stuck in a toxic relationship only mine is with my elderly mother & family.
I too cannot afford to move out and am not currently well enough to work.
Other than offering my support and my heart aches for you it really does, being trapped is no way to live, all I can suggest is number one, find a way to look after yourself.
Your partner's health issues are his to deal with, your responsibility is to yourself and your own health & happiness.
My mother is narcissistic which means she will never meet me halfway, she won't even give me 5% of the way. But after 52 years I have learned to say no and put myself first. You are not being selfish by doing this, you are merely practicing self-love and you are worthy of that love.
I hope you can find the help you need very soon. xx

BB 🐰💙