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oceangirlSenior Contributor
I'm someone that has always struggled to talk about my triggers and I thought we could start a discussion about this. Talking about things that bother us (makes us feel uncomfortable)- could be stepping stone to more insight and understanding and caring relationships.
In response to: Things make us feel uncomfortable including triggers
BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@oceangirl Hey oceangirl xx I think I am still a work in progress as I get triggered all the time with people in particular. So true what you say "we feel not so good about ourselves and worried about what others might think etc". Dear god why do I care??
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Well relationship involves other people, so it does make sense that we are concerned about others perceptions. It can make a difference how we present, even though we also want to be accepted purely for our own being. It is a matter of balance and seems hard work to find a level we can be true to ourselves and considerate of others. If we totally discard any responsibility to the outside world, it will usually bite us on the bum.
Seems finding our own tribe is more of any answer than being socially acceptable ... cos thats an ever shifting reality.
@Bunniekins @oceangirl
Our friendship has evolved slowly and helps give me faith through an especially dark period, where my social circumstances could not support any conversation about what I was really going through with my son.
@Former-Member I have felt strong feelings of pain and a sense of missing out, when out and about and seeing others happy in family or friendship groups. As I have gotten older, I do not get triggered into my hurt and pain by other's happiness, and can actually hook into it as a positive in the world. However it has taken 20 years for that to happen very gradually. I had to find ways of feeding and healing myself, which I have done through music and research into all things history, philosophy and psychology, and neuro science. My healing had to be genuine and deep, but is no way an absolute, as I had a recent breakdown in Oct-Nov, but have bounced back given decent support from services. Yes what they do can make a difference.
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