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Here we go again.

B45Senior Contributor25 Aug 2016, 9:04 am AEST

Here we go again.

Woke up this morning thinking, "here we go again, another day of feeling uncomfortable where I live". I live in a beautiful area it's just there are people around who are not so friendly. I feel a bit vulnerable as I am quiet, reserved and would like to be friendly with everyone. I've been that way for the last 40 years. I'm trying to become a stronger personality and be able to handle these "not so friendly types". I know it takes time to change & there are plenty of positives in my life. How do I stop these feelings interrupting my transformation. I so want to show hubby I can change. I am on meds & seeing a counsellor.

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HellonWheelsSenior Contributor25 Aug 2016, 10:51 am AEST

Re: Here we go again.

Have you tried mindfulness?

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B45Senior Contributor25 Aug 2016, 1:16 pm AEST

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Thanks @HellonWheels for your reply. I do guided meditations daily & work on breathing. I think I expect too much too soon. Learning to cope with anxiety takes time particularly when you have behaved the same way for 40 years of your life and you weren't given a great deal of emotional support as a child. That was then this is now. I have an anxiety toolbox, I have to face my fears & give myself time.

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GavinleeSenior Contributor25 Aug 2016, 2:27 pm AEST

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Do you see a psychiatrist? Do you attend any groups? Do you have private health insurance?

All of these can help, talking and learning skills in a group environment is very helpful and you can certainly learn from others experience's

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B45Senior Contributor25 Aug 2016, 3:21 pm AEST

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I have a good cousellor who I see fortnightly. I live in a country area - no groups but down the track I would like to start one.

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GavinleeSenior Contributor25 Aug 2016, 6:13 pm AEST

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I've done the psychologist thing but found group and learning skills to be far more helpful.
It's worth looking into, especially if you have private health insurance.

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