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Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

DaisydreamerSenior Contributor16 Feb 2021, 1:17 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

Hello to our wonderful Lived Experience forum members and readers 👋

This month we are excited to welcome the President of the Blue Knot Foundation, Cathy Kezelman, as our special guest for Topic Tuesday Live Chat Event on the topic of Trauma. Blue Knot are national leaders in supporting and empowering people who are recovering and healing after complex trauma.

Topic Tuesday will look a bit different this month as we are hosting two discussions back-to-back on the forums with the Blue Knot Foundation.

How will it work?

🔹 From 7:00-8:00pm AEDT, we will start the discussion in the Friends, Family and Carers forum talking on the topic of Understanding Trauma and Supporting Loved Ones (use this link to join the discussion!).

🔹 From 8:00-9:00pm AEDT the conversation will continue here in the Lived Experience Forum talking about Trauma and Recovery.

Trauma and Recovery

Recovery and healing after complex trauma is a personal journey and looks different for each person. The SANE forums community holds a space where many stories of trauma and recovery are shared, including the journeys of each person who is coping with the impact of trauma. This discussion will focus on the impact of trauma for survivors, recovery after trauma, finding trauma informed support services.

Earlier this month we put out a call for questions on the topic of trauma contributing to the planning of this event. We want to extend a huge thank you to the many members who posted questions for this live event- we have done our best to combine key themes and questions! 💙

Please join us here on Tuesday the 23rd of February 2021 from 8:00pm-9:00pm AEDT to follow this conversation.

Want to receive a reminder on the night? Hit the 'Support' button below.

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I'm new here - what is this?

The event runs from 7:00 - 8.00pm AEDT on the 23rd of February in the Friends, Family and Carers forum, and then continues here in the Lived Experience Forum from 8:00 - 9:00pm AEDT. You are welcome to join for one or both of these discussions. Each month we focus on a different topic with the session facilitated by a Community Manager or Moderator, and joined by a Peer Support Worker.

The first post of the thread (this one) will give you an idea of what the topic is and what will be covered.

How do I get involved?

Our text-based event takes place right here! As it is text-based, no software is needed. During the session, to keep up with the latest posts hit the 'refresh' button on your browser for the newest comments (it doesn't automatically update). Keep an eye out for page numbers at the top & bottom of the page, and jump to the highest page number for the most recent post. We recommend using a desktop computer or laptop for the event for overall ease of use .

Throughout the session, the facilitator will post questions for the guest to answer, and you can provide your answer too. Usually the questions will ask for your own experience on the topic. To contribute to the event, just hit the 'reply' button and share your thoughts. No answers are right or wrong, and everyone is welcome to get involved!

What time does this event start in my timezone?

AEDT - 8:00pm
AEST - 7:00pm
ACDT - 7:30pm
ACST - 6:30pm
WST - 5:00pm

If you have any questions about how to use the Forums, check out our Guides.

Topic Tuesday discussions can cover some heavy topics. If you are feeling distress during this live discussion, there are support options available to you. You can start a new discussion on the forums and talk to other members, contact the SANE Help Centre on 1800 18 7263, or find crisis support options here.

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chibamSenior Contributor23 Feb 2021, 8:28 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

@Cathyblueknot wrote:
Many are isolated and withdrawn but just as we are harmed in relationships in which we are hurt we can also heal in relationships of care, support and nurture. It is about learning to trust and connecting with people, and often initially one person – friend, family or professional with whom you feel safe. This can help to change your internal beliefs that the world is dangerous and support a healing journey.

Peer support provides a unique opportunity to connect with a person who has their own lived experience and who can walk alongside you on your journey helping you to make sense of what you are feeling and support you to find a path to recovery.

It's tracking down the right person/group, with the right characteristics & values, ect. to nourish an endearing perception of humanity that is the challenge; to say nothing of the challenge of establishing a meaningful association with them once they've been located.

Are there any other facilities available to help people connect with "the right people" to help them heal, aside from the peer support system?

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Emelia8Senior Contributor23 Feb 2021, 8:28 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

I agree that learning to trust someone is a huge issue @Cathyblueknot @Daisydreamer @Former-Member

I learned to trust my clinical psychologist, because I had nobody else. But is that a bad thing? Can you become dependent or reliant on them? And then if something happens and they are no longer there for you, once again ... you have nobody. And once again your trust is broken and you are once again entirely on your own.

Is it not better to self isolate, and then you cant be let down?

Emelia

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cinaLCasual Contributor23 Feb 2021, 8:28 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

that's really heart breaking. i hope she one day comes out of her denial to acknowledge the life long impact that would have had on your whole life and you as a child. i hope you find safe people you can talk to and connect with about it. complex trauma and PTSD are the worst. sometimes i don't know if i will ever get through it all but all i can do is keep trying because slowly in time things are becoming less intense than they used to be.

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Unknown userMember23 Feb 2021, 8:29 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

Amazing words and I couldn't agree more @cinaL "its really unhealthy to be isolated and we need to continuously fight against the isolation creeping in more and more cos if we don't challenge it it just takes over our lives and we become more unwell" 🌻

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DaisydreamerSenior Contributor23 Feb 2021, 8:29 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

@destructive wrote:

I don't know if it's what you mean @Daisydreamer but at the moment I'm working in finding stuff for grounding. Apparently strong input can be good. So I have some oils and a ring massage thing. I have troubles with dissociation so it's meant to help me with that. Only new though

Grounding strategies is something we hear from many people who are coping with the big emotions brought up by past trauma. How have you found the grounding tools so far?

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BlueBaySenior Contributor23 Feb 2021, 8:29 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

I can't stay

I'm triggered

it's too much

@Daisydreamer

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destructiveSenior Contributor23 Feb 2021, 8:29 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

And even if you do find someone good, or at least seemingly, you can't afford to see them enough to make any progress. Seems hopeless

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DaisydreamerSenior Contributor23 Feb 2021, 8:30 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

Completely understand @BlueBay. Take care of yourself tonight and the SANE Helpline (1800 18 7263) is open if you need someone to talk to now

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cinaLCasual Contributor23 Feb 2021, 8:30 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

yes i agree. and i have seen people come out of the darkest darkest worst places that i never thought they would have come back from but they managed to. so miracles do happen in peoples lives every day and healing is something that can be attainable for everyone, but it takes hard work to recover from the darkest places.

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Last-LamentSenior Contributor23 Feb 2021, 8:31 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Trauma and Recovery// Blue Knot Foundation // Tues 23rd February 2021, 8:00-9:00PM AEDT

@Cathyblueknot unfortunately, as I have discoverred many support services etc say they are trauma informed, yet are not. Dentists are in there too. There's a great teaching set of videos from Sharonne Zaks dental services if anyone is inerested in learning more or passing it onto others.

My gp won't let me see psychologists anymoer because they set me to suicide status with their need to know all the details of my traumas listed from 1st to last. The last one would'n't even do anything, like talk to me, until I did a time line. Needless to say that did not last long.

I need someone who has experienced the cynicism, loss and pain that life hands out over time, and for whom the passivity of going through the motions has not worked for. Why are there no really aged psychologists working on different methods of managing depression and anxiety?

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