New Dad

Hi New Dad

What a tangle! - I am not at all surprised that things are difficult when you are bringing up a toddler from a different relationship and now your partner is pregnant again to the same "baby daddy" -

Not a good start - I would feel pretty used - and it must certainly add to the weight of it all when she only wants you around when she wants you to do things for her - not good at all

I don't know and can't suggest anything for you to do - I know when I was in the middle of my first pregnancy and had my adopted toddler around I was tense and nervy - but then I was married to the "baby daddy" - it was a tricky pregnancy - but I certainly can understand a man has to feel out of his depth when his wife goes through this awkward time

But you are just the partner and these are not your children and the main thing I picked up from your message is that she is needy and wants you to pick up the pieces already

I'm sorry - I can understand how you feel and you are no sook - I don't know what you should do though but whatever it is you need to think about caring for yourself

Keep in touch - we support each other here. I would like to welcome you here and hope you stick around - and I hope things work out whatever you choose to do

Dec

@Owlunar lol yeaaaahhh I guess it was a bit of a tangled web. I guess for me right now it's all about the insecurity, self esteem, and self confidence... Though what she says is small or even meaningless, however, it hurts a lot more and more when it's repeated constantly on a daily basis. Small things can go a long way. So yeah. It's complicated but I love the woman so that's why I guess it hits home a lot more harder than usual. The manly wall is only as strong as the man, but when the man doesn't feel strong... Neither is the wall. Love her to bits I do... Just sometimes haha it can go a little too far.

Hey,

Just seeing how things are going?

I can't offer much advice, but I'm a new dad myself. We have a 3 year old (from my partners previous relationship) and a newborn if you ever need to chat. Usually there is always at least one crying or the 3 year old is doing something that makes either of us want to rip our hair out, but i will be around sporadically if you need anything. 😄