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IamNOTaloneContributor
that’s how I feel I am coping. I can save myself from drowning in the endless list of things needing to do, but I can never swim out of the rip and get ahead. Or a break. I’m tired of constantly using so much energy just to stay afloat. If I just had enough mental strength to pull myself up and out, I could then use this energy for good. And I could maybe catch a break
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MaggieSenior Contributor
@IamNOTalone I can hear you.
Is it this time of year in particular, or all year round ?
I’m sorry it’s such a struggle . Do you have any support, professional or family and friends ?
Sending you some positive vibes, hoping today has some light in it for you especially.
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BurntSenior Contributor
Hey again @IamNOTalone I understand you. I too find myself overwhelmed and barely keeping myself from drowning.
I’m not sure how to fix it, or help he situation. I just take some deep breaths when I feel intense and stressed.
You’re doing a great job keeping yourself afloat. It’s exhausting, emotional and stressful.
Sometimes life is just a rip and we need to just roll with it, or float with it. Relax. Breath. It will all be ok. Write a list of your most important to dos- write a list of less important (like clean the stove, small things)
tackle big to dos when you have the time, and tackle a few little to dos everyday. I’ve been doing that so far, trying to do a few little things every day.
You know how to swim and you will get yourself out of this rip.
Take care
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TideisTurningSenior Contributor
That sounds really rough @IamNOTalone. I really like what @Burnt has suggested, though I'm wondering if there's anything you can think of that might help you float along a little easier until the waters calm a little?
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IamNOTaloneContributor
It’s been like this all year sadly, but getting worse this time of year with the anniversary.
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IamNOTaloneContributor
I like the list idea. I might give it a try @Burnt
i think Christmas is making it worse. The stress of buying presents but financially not being able to.
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IamNOTaloneContributor
@TideisTurning nothing I can think of besides more time, or someone to help in this time. To help me get things done, like a working bee
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TideisTurningSenior Contributor
Time is a wonderful healer @IamNOTalone! The working bee sounds like a great idea too. I hope you can find others to rally around and help out! Take care
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BurntSenior Contributor
@IamNOTalone
hi again, have you tried a list for helping the stress levels?
Even if mentally: if so , how have you gone?
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