annoying old woman

@jamesle2015 for some of the elderly Christmas is the only time family bother to spend much time with them and so it is a very important part of the year. It doesn't occur to them that some people find the holiday triggering as for them it is the only bright spot they have all year. I am sure she didn't mean to upset you, she is just very focused on the part of the year that keeps her going, when she feels she is of value to the people she loves who for the most part are too busy with their own lives to check in on her.

Hey @jamesle2015 ,

As @Ici said, I'm sure she didn't mean to upset you. It may just be her manner.

I guess in life we deal with all sorts of people. Some are harder to deal with than others. I'm glad we are not all the same. I couldn't handle everyone being like me, nor could we handle having everyone like this customer. Let's just say, we are all different so life doesn't get boring. LOL.

BPDSurvivor

Hello @jamesle2015

I can read the frustration that you felt, a human emotion that most of us feel at some stage or another.

For myself, I find that my tolerance levels are always at their lowest when I am not in a good place myself.

In particular, in my case, if my anxiety levels are high.

I find myself apologising, trying to explain why and then feel worse for doing so.

I have a friend, diagnosed with Alzheimers Disease about a year ago, even though tests had been occurring for over 3 years.

Her moods were noticeable to me far earlier than that.

Alzheimers Disease is also an illness of the brain.

People with this condition can sometimes come across as ungrateful, short-tempered, greedy, spiteful, along with cheerful, kind, loving and caring.

I have noticed my friend always wants to give me fresh flowers from her garden. This I adore. For her it means so much as she spends most of her days when not going to appointments in her garden.

I take her shopping occasionally as well as out to lunch. Her and her husband come for dinner as well.

She tends to find it easier talking about garden.

I am wondering if your customer might have a troubled mind. Ageing can bring that also.

Focussing on 5cents might relate back to an earlier time in her life and be a way of showing you kindness.

Just a suggestion, we have no way of knowing.

Nevertheless recognising that you feel irritable is healthy as it is an emotion. How we react and deal with that is probably the best approach for future.

What do you think?

Sophia

I understand what you are saying ...

I think she has a 'problem' with Christmas..

If someone speaks to counter staff like that for 5c which she knows is the smallest bit of loose change I reckon most counter staff would think she is not showing respect....

From my experience there some people who don't like Christmas because they don't believe in it for religious reasons ...

without mentioning which kind of people from other 'religious' who normally react strongly to Christmas you could work it out... I think this was the case....

Other old people don't react like her... there are other ones that look for the right change to try to help

I think it is her problem she reacts badly and you can imagine if counter staff need to face so many customers why it's better not to see these people

I didn't react badly to her I didn't say anything

But it's better not to face these kinds of customer.... There are a lot of customers to face

they never change - doesn't matter what year it is customers will always be 'customers'

@Sophia1

I understand what you are saying ...

I think she has a 'problem' with Christmas..

If someone speaks to counter staff like that for 5c which she knows is the smallest bit of loose change I reckon most counter staff would think she is not showing respect....

From my experience there some people who don't like Christmas because they don't believe in it for religious reasons ...

without mentioning which kind of people from other 'religious' who normally react strongly to Christmas you could work it out... I think this was the case....

Other old people don't react like her... there are other ones that look for the right change to try to help

I think it is her problem she reacts badly and you can imagine if counter staff need to face so many customers why it's better not to see these people

I didn't react badly to her I didn't say anything

Hello @jamesle2015

Thank you for replying to me.

Yes there are many people who do find christmas and leading up to that time quite distressful.

Perhaps that was what she was trying to convey.

In an anxious state she might have meant the 5cent offering as a token of giving.

Anxiety can come across in many different ways.

I find the lead up to Christmas Day stressful. I have memories of unpleasant experiences.

I believe you when you said that you didn't react badly.

I think that you were wanting to have a conversation about something that puzzled you.

This is a good thing.

Writing our thoughts on here can take the pressure off our minds and is also a form of starting a conversation with others.

What are some things that interest you jamesle2015?

Nice to meet you

Sophia 1

@Sophia1 I think she has a 'problem' with Christmas...

whatever it is ...I understand that there is no way to know exactly what her 'problem' is...

It could be simply that she doesn't like it at all for her own reasons ..religious possibly

It is very easy to tell when people blaspheme - they use 'Jesus' as a swear word I have seen it a lot

the point is that people should have more respect whether they celebrate Christmas or not

in this case she didn't say thay but I suspect she may be one of those

I have seen a lot of customers in my life I can work out things about them

If it is 'religious' - people like this should show some respect by not taking it out on

the counter staff who are working hard at this time of year

I think they really have no gratitude for the hard work we put in every year ....

Some people are better than others ....It makes me really appreciate the good ones