Just a bit tired after the last crisis.

Hello @UprightRabbit

Crashing after a crisis has abated is exactly what happened to me and getting some supports into place for oneself I believe is imperative so that one is better able to manage the next crisis that happens (whether or not it is MH related or not).

We are not alone in this, indeed a study done on resilience in nurses showed that support post major event was necessary.

I had some of the symptoms of carer stress that you have at present including an inability to concentrate on my work and a messy house.

I found getting a counselor that helped guide me through the aftermath was most helpful.

You might like to join us in this decluttering discussion thread Decluttering and home maintenance which was started as a follow up to one on the LE side which had run its course. In this thread mutual encouragement is given to tackle our clutter and other household tasks that need our attention. I actually found that taking control of my mess (which was a slow process) was parallel to my recovery from the crisis.

Darcy

Hi @Former-Member

Thank you so much for replying. Carer stress. I start crying the moment anyone is nice to me. I have decided to come up with a crisis management plan and I stuck a note on my mirror saying, 'I promise to look after you first'.

I am simply unable to help or support my partner right now. I haven't got anything. Carer stress crash is a thing then, right? I'm not imagining it?

Hope you are caring for yourself first today too.

Friendly elbows,

Rabbit.

No, you are not imagining it @UprightRabbit ,it is also known as carer burnout. There are a lot of good coping strategies in this thread Carers Hints and tips to Success that might help as well as in 8 dimensions of wellness .

Hi @Former-Member

I'll spend some time this evening looking around at the bits you have suggested - thank you, I appreciate it.

Ate some food and took my son swimming so that's good 🙂 feeling almost human again. Hoping you are well, Rabbit.

@UprightRabbit Hey UprightRabbit and hiya @Former-Member hoping you both have a kind and caring day ahead. Dont forget to look after yourselves. Love pea

You too @Bunniekins

Good morning @Former-Member and @Bunniekins

Hoping you are well 🙂

I'm interested in being a contributor and a help to others as well as asking for help myself but it will take me some time to learn everyone's backgrounds. Is there a way to do this? I am guessing that the best way is to spend time reading through existing posts and narratives. I am likely to need a lot of help moving forward lol, but I don't plan to be someone who only asks, I plan to be someone who asks, uses what they're given, and offers support back when I can.

Best, Rabbit.

@UprightRabbit Good on you Rabbit. We need that on the forums. Best way is to dive right in. Look at the various threads and introduce yourself. One of my favourites is the Re: Good Morning! thread. Have a look around and tell me what your think :Dx

@UprightRabbit

Most people tend to contribute most to discussion threads that are relevant to them such as diagnosis ie BP (bipolar) Sz (schizophrenia) BPD (borderline personality disorder) or relational to the person they care for ie partner/ parent/ child/ sibling. In the "looking after ourselves" category there are plenty of mutual discussions on self care, shared hobbies that help us express ourselves (which help us cope) and the social pages where it is nice to have a place for general banter without the serious stuff with those who understand threads include a virtual cafe, dogs, cats, other funnies. There is a little crossover on the social pages - the one @Bunniekins suggested is on the LE side, the dog thread is more active on the carer side and the LE side has an active craft thread.

Hello @UprightRabbit

Sounds like you have a strong drive for social conscience. The world needs those people, so dont forget to turn your caring back on yourself when you need it. Stress can accumulate and some crises take a while to recover from. Also there is a justice and natural order in allowing partners to realise they are generating extra stress and to try and alleviate it. Oooh for a world of balance and harmony!

Cheers Apple