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Hopelessness

Anonym11Casual Contributor29 June 2020, 4:15 pm AEST

Hopelessness

I am international student here in Australia who graduated last December but have not been able to find a job yet. I am here relying on others. I feel like I have no dignity left, like I am a leech. Even during my university years, I worked hard like everyone else, if not more. Being single and moving to a new country at an age of 18 wasn't easy, yet I convinced myself that it will be worth it. But now 6 months past my course, with all my friends already working, here I am jobless. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel hopeless. There were times when I used to feel overwhelmed and would cry in darkness but those ugly emotions somehow made me feel alive. Now, I feel hollow and empty. I used to think as long as you give your best, God will never disappoint you. But how wrong I was.

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Unknown userMember29 June 2020, 4:42 pm AEST

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Hey @Anonym11, I'm really sorry to hear what you're struggling with at the moment. It sounds so painful not being where you thought you would be right now. I can imagine it's really lonely too so I am glad you have reached out here. The forums are a really supportive peer community, so I'm sure you will find some wisdom and connection here. Also feel free to check out our Community Guidelines to get a sense of how things work.

Lastly, I'm going to send you an email to check in if you need any off forum support too. But please keep reaching out here too, as peer connection is important 🌻

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SnowieSenior Contributor29 June 2020, 5:08 pm AEST

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Hi @Anonym11 and welcome to the forums.

Please feel free to look around. Just a note,if you would like tag a member just put a @ infront of their name.

You will find lots of support here and I am sure more members will coe on board soon.

Take care 💛

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MrX1Contributor29 June 2020, 9:53 pm AEST

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Hi @Anonym11

It is very hard being away from family at that age. I applaud you for moving to another country while so young to get a good education. I am very sorry to hear you don't have a job yet.
You are probably about half my age I would say so you have a lot of years ahead of you that will have hills to climb. Climbing the hill is the hardest but once at the peak you can decide to go down the other side or even do a 360 and go back the way you came. Your choices are limitless.

Try to think of this period as part of your climb and that you will reach the peak.

I don't know where you live or what you studied but consider - do you have to live where you are or do you have to take a job in your chosen profession straight away. Look at other options and give yourself a break. Don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe talking with a psychologist might help you never know unless you try.