Struggling

Hi @Borobi ,

welcome to the forums, and I am sorry to hear that you have been struggling. It sounds like there is a lot going on in your life right now.

You sound like you are a very caring and conscientious person, helping others who have been scammed. Sometimes when we spend a lot of time and energy helping other people, we can burn out and find that there is not enough compassion left for ourselves. This has happened to me numerous times, unfortunately. It might be time to take a step back and let other people deal with the scamming thing.

You are lucky to have mates to reach out to.... it's just that people have such busy lives, they may not even notice that you are feeling down. I remember wen I got very unwell with depression in the past and no-one noticed. Even when I told people how I was struggling, they looked like they didn't actually believe me, because I was still going to work and still doing the house-work and still able to smile. I looked normal, therefore I must be okay, according to them.

I guess one of the problems is that people in the community in general really don't know what to do or say when someone has depression, because they are not experienced and don't see the signs.

It would be a good idea to go and chat with your G.P. about how you are feeling and maybe get a referral to a psychologist. That is what I did and in the end it was just such a relief to talk about everything that was bothering me. To have someone there who has real experience in dealing with depression was so valuable to me. I actually felt like I was being heard for the first time in my life.

Also you are welcome to write your heart out here, as many of us do.

Hi @Borobi,

It's good to hear that you took the courage to investigate the scammers. It's not easy to be whistleblowers here as the laws ironically are against you. I have been in your position too, so I understand. I was naive back then, and just said the truth which happens to be the elephant in the room. Everyone knew about it, but just looked away. Later I read many cases in regards to whistleblowers on the news, and disappointingly they faced lots of ramificaations for standing up to justice.

Recently I came across this guy who had his story written in the book "Unholy Trinity". I hope this will not trigger you, but as a police officer, this guy stood up to his values and tried to protect the victims. Alas, he could not catch the culprits due to their status and power. He pretty much lost everything after; his career, family, etc. It was only in his later years that his story was acknowledged, but by then, the victims' number had grown. Many were young and ended up broken. He was compensated by his past employment and ended up marrying someone too.

Everyone goes through rough phases at some point in their lives so take it easy. Relationship will come together if it's meant to be and the right employment will come at the right time. Death is just the circle of life and there's always new beginning after.

I hope you are feeling better but otherwise this is a good place to vent.

Hi, just read your comment. As a PTSD survivor, and mother of 3, with MH issues, 2 diagnosed, eldest refused to be, ex .... doesnt matter, I get you, people care okay, take it easy, get a Medical Certificate for time off work, or tell work you are leaving, YOU are most important at this time, nothing or nobody else, take time out, relax, recover ... yep may take ages, nobody has a right to judge okay, just look after you right now. Yep, I am really great at advising others lol, but trying to do same myself. Take care,as even unknown people do, okay, hang in there, IT WILL GET BETTER 🙂