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Mumof472Casual Contributor
Hi I'm not after sympathy I just need guidance and someone to talk to pls. . I have kids with special needs and I suffer depression and anxiety. My husband cheated on me and left me yesterday. I'm a mess. Anyone who can understand this pain pls help me. 😭💔
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Hey @Mumof472 That is incredibly hard for you and I can imagine there is so much going through your mind right now. Here to listen 
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hello @Mumof472
It would be totally overwhelming but there are those reasons we keep going. In a way putting feelings on hold can sometimes help while you deal with the basics.
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@Mumof472 Hey Mumof472 my ex left me for another woman when I was in the middle of a full blown mania brought on by my psychosis. I have 3 children with2 of them having mental health problems and the eldest with crohns disease. So I know what you are going through. If you just need someone to talk with I am happy to sit and listen. We are a friendly bunch of people here. Oh just one thing if you want to talk with someone inparticular put a @ in front of their name like I did for you and that will send them a notification of your post. Take care and I look forward to hearing from you. Love greenpea
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Mumof472Casual Contributor
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@Mumof472 You got it hun :D. It is hard what you are going through but stay strong. It took me ages to get myself together after he left and I was formally diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder but now I love being single. I have my own power back. You will be fine be kind to yourself. Lots of pampering :)xx
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Mumof472Casual Contributor
@Bunniekins thanks I feel like my soul is being ripped apart. He's the love of my life and I'm haven't stopped crying since it happened. I have no friends except 1 and she just keeps saying U will be fine don't let it get to you. But he's my soul, my best friend, my husband, my family and now he's gone just like that. Thursday saying I love you and Friday night gone. It's eating me alive ATM and I just don't know how I'm going to ever be ok 😭😭😭💔💔💔
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@Mumof472 Hunny that is so tough :(. I know the feeling and it is raw inside. There will come a stage where he will come to pick up the kids on an outing and you will think 'What did I ever see in him' I promise you that. In the meantime can you look after yourself. Lots of gentle times for yourself. Treat yourself kindly I promise you it will get better slowly. xxxx
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@Mumof472 Mumof472 do you have family who can take the kids for a few hours so that you can go out with your girlfriend and have a little bit of fun girl time? this is so important. I know having special needs kids is full on particularly now. Even if you only go for a walk in the sunshine being out and about would do you a power of good.
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Mumof472Casual Contributor
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