@Eden1919I'm sorry my response upset you. That obviously wasn't my intent.
I'm probably overly prone to drawing on my own experience/situation in these sorts of discussions and that probably leads me to make some unfair assumptions. Since my own situation involves being well aware of the "what" I need, but needing help to get it, often I can't help but wonder if this is the nature of other peoples' dillemmas as well.
The way I read your last post, I understand that the help you want is to alter how your mind works? To change your thoughts/feelings so you can cope with things better? Is that right?
Have you tried self-hypnosis? I tried it and had some limited success with it. It didn't fix my life, but it did produce some minor improvements. I'm told that everybody has differant levels of suseptibility to hypnosis, so I imagine for some that it could have remarkable curative effects, whereas others won't be effected by it at all.
So obviously it doesn't come with any guarantees. But if you haven't already tried it, could it be worth a shot?
Another thing you might want to look in to is something called "Neuro-Linguistic Programming". My own therapist mentioned it after some pushing in one of our sessions. But she had an agenda with me, so I can't vouch for it's value or effectiveness. I looked in to it very briefly years ago, but I don't remember much. My understanding is that it's geared towards getting inside your head and changing your thoughts and/or feelings.
I apologize if any of this is stuff you've heard all before and/or if it dregs up any sour memories of past experiences. But please appreciate that we have very little information about your story to go on, so it's probably unavoidable that we - or anyone for that matter - are likely to stumble through old ground in the course of trying to help you find a solution.
If it's any consolation, I can most definitely sympathize with the frustrations of trying to have conversations with people that stumble into all the wrong places because nobody knows where anybody else is coming from. You quickly realize that there are so many relevant specifics that need to be clarified in order to get everybody up to speed and the conversation on the right track; only it would probably take you 500 pages to explain all the necessary details, and it's doubtful anybody would bother to read it all even if you had the time and drive to write such an explaination.
@Eden1919 wrote:
But knowing what I want does absolutely nothing to help me achieve or get what I need all it does is show me that there’s is a lot that isn’t working and makes it harder to narrow down how to make it happen. Also for me trying to think of ideals does nothing because yes I can imagine something but it doesn’t do anything to change how things currently are knowing what you want or need doesn’t equal being physically or mentally able to have it it doesn’t even always give you a way to get it.
I get that - I think. But don't forget that knowing what you want and being able to describe what you want are essential steps in being able to get adequate help, which is what you are apparently seeking. A person can only truly help you if they understand what it is you want from them - and in the vast majority of cases, they'll only be able to have this understanding if you can communicate these needs to them.
So knowing what you want isn't entirely about you acquiring those things in the direct sense - it's also about you being able to effectively engage with the people you turn to for help. Keep in mind that strangers have absolutely no idea what's going on with you, or what's occurred in your past, especially in terms of what methods of 'help' you've been presented with that have proven to be inadequate or harmful.
