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I have a question about the way suicide prevention and overall risk management is provided/enforced, and am just wondering if anyone has any insights or perspective of their own to provide to the table of this discussion.
One of the largest reasons, if not the largest reason why I have always had a very hard time with this is that the way it is provided/enforced only deals with the immediate and, in my opinion least important part of the issue. I understand that having people die by suicide and other risk associated with mental health is a very serious issue that requires immediate plans to do everything possible to stop them from happening.
What I don't understand, and never have understood is why part of providing to a person in this situation does not include actually dealing with the reasons and problems that contribute to why in the first place, and receiving whatever help is needed to actually change them so the person can see actual improvement and actually reduce their risk factors in the medium and long term.
What use do safety plans, safety contracts, essentially being baby sat and stared at have when nothing is done to change the person's circumstances that cause them to require that at all? What use does speaking to a help line have when they can't provide that either? I mean no offense whatsoever, and I understand the basics of why these are provided/enforced, but not why they are the only thing and how they actually help without the above. They never have for me.
If anything, they just make it worse because nothing is being dealt with or changed, and you are being forced to be a burden. I know that I would be able to better accept why that part is necessary if it wasn't the only part happening, and that I would understand better why people involved expect me to improve, my risk to reduce and for me to appreciate and be grateful for their effort to keep me alive, because I would actually have a reason to be.
But as it is at current, the way I see it, all that is doing is basically cheering on my suffering and staring at me day after day whilst nothing changes, acting like that is a good thing and as if it is beneficial. Its like being in a tiny cage and put on a horrible show for people to watch and be entertained by, and like its all good when those people inevitably get ticked off when nothing actually improves and the impact of it and having to baby sit gets thrown back on me, because I am the one who made it necessary.
I'm sorry, but that's not real prevention to me and you wouldn't ask a non-mentally ill person to appreciate and be grateful for that, surely wouldn't ask them to be grateful for being abused or neglected if that happens either. There are always reasons for and contributions towards why a person is suicidal or some other kind of risk to themselves. None of them are things anyone else would be expected to be grateful and appreciative for as people involved just watch as they go on like they don't even exist.
I'd be more than inclined to say "Thanks for watching and guiding me and protecting me whilst I had to change my life in order to be OK and able to keep continuing on my own, thank you for providing that space and containment for me and for helping me work through and change what had to be, I am grateful. Thanks for being a part of saving my life" if that was provided. Because like I said, I would have a reason to.
But never once have I been provided with that opportunity or real help. Why is it addressed like this, I want to understand if it is possible.