Trying to find a solution

Note. I quit drinking a year or two ago. I think August will be start of year 3? Also not interested in anything else and really focusing on health. My life has turned complete circle to a positive side of a coin. But still a long way to go. Avoiding peoples expectations is important I tink. I have my own virtues and goals and too bad if not shared by others. Im sure the other stuff will sort itself out. Feels good to write here rather than bottling up.

Hi @GeminiLion ,

I am 45 and never been in an intimate relationship. I realised a few years ago that I am asexual. I don't blame my solitary life on my mental issues, rather, I have always been too introverted to make it a priority to seriously look for a partner. I tried a few times but without results. There was once a guy seriously interested in me but I was not interested in him in that way. I would have prefered to stay 'just friends'. I am now wondering whether to look for an asexual partner so that I have someone for company. It wouldn't matter if they were male of female, because I am really just looking for a 'best friend' that sleeps in their own bed. Unfortunately, I don't expect to find an asexual partner on a dating site. Asexual people only make up a tiny portion of the population and even fewer visit dating sites. Especially those close to my age (40s).

@catladybookworm Hi catladybookworm dont despair I think you would find many women (in particular) who would be interested. Speaking for myself I am in my 50s been married kidults have all basically grown up and would love to live with a friend who I could go walking with, movies etc. I would just say be very fussy and dont take the first person that shows an interest and since you will be sharing a house together do your legal work re property etc in other words a good will.greenpeax

@GeminiLion @catladybookworm

Relationship wise me too.

I've had girls take me home to their place, saying they wanted to sleep with me, and I honestly thought they just wanted to sleep and that's what I did. For some strange reason, sex isn't a part of my brain. In hindsight I realise what they wanted though.

Two girls at work have made advances at me, but I still have no desire for them.

I think I'd feel sorry for any girl who married me, because I think the part of the brain that gives sexual intimacy just isn't there. I suspect my brain is a child's brain and always will be. Oh well.

@GeminiLion I hate alcohol (and drugs, cigarettes, marijuana and sugar) also, can't drink it. But I do wonder why society forces people to drink it. Recently a very young man died last year of drinking to much at the local pub. But even so, the husband of a work colleague, who is a good decent honest family man, wanted to get me drunk at the work Christmas party last year because he thought it would be funny. Even good people can want to do bad things. It is a strange world.

Thanks @Bunniekins , that sounds like good advice!