MitokoCasual Contributor
Depression or Sulk?
Hi, I am in a long distance relationship with someone who has just fallen into a hole due to failing as a writer and now having no income. I used to subsidise him but can’t afford to any longer. He’s just waiting for everything to close in on him. He won’t look for work and now has no income just debt. He won’t seek help. Says his life is pointless. I was so worried that I recently travelled to the US and spent two weeks with him and he seemed to turn a corner but as soon as I left he literally went to bed. Our daily Skype contact has ended and I just receive messages telling me that he loves me, we will see each other again but his life is over and that he is worthless. I’ve tried to be helpful. His father is with him temporarily and he will soon be evicted and have to return to his familial home in another state. I’m bereft that he won’t engage and finding patience so hard. I’ve been encouraging, offered to listen but he’s without hope. Messages are short and filled with despair. He doesn’t see any options (of which there are many) and refuses help. Since he has no history of mental illness but has had periods of withdrawal in the past, I’m torn as to whether this is depression or just a deep sadness in the face of failure. I simply keep in touch every day hoping he’ll come and talk about his future plans but at the moment he’s simply existing. It’s now been 13 days since we’ve Skyped and 15 days since I last saw him. I have long suspected he has NPD or bi-polar but he’s never been diagnosed.
