RazzleSenior Contributor
So frustrated !!
There has been so many stories in the media lately regarding pedophiles and historic sexual abuse cases now coming to light and making it to court. In particular the George Pell case. Some of my in-laws are Catholic, others are not but are still very religious.
There have been a few weekends lately where we have had a lot of family events, and at some point the subject of these court cases come up in conversation. I get so frustrated by some of the comments that my sister in laws make, why they don’t believe some of these people to be guilty. They don’t believe these things could happen and never be spoken about for 20 - 30 years, and why are they only saying something now. That the events couldn’t have happened because other people were around and would have seen something, but there was
never any witnesses.
I have never shared my story with anyone except my husband and therapist and now this forum), and that was only last year - 40 years after the assaults occurred. Sometimes it happened with his family in the next room.
Sometimes I want to scream at this family, yell some sense into them,
but instead I have to sit back, bite my tongue and say nothing. Why is it so easy for people to believe a pedophile but not the victim ?? I have come so close to outing myself and telling them why these people are so guilty but pull myself up before the words can leave my mouth.
The more they defend these monsters, the more of a victim I feel, like I will never be believed if I ever did say something. They make me feel like I’m a liar, that it’s some how my fault. It leaves me feeling like crap for days.
Does anyone else ever feel like this ??
I don’t know how to get out of these situations without drawing attention to myself. Getting up and leaving looks obvious, changing the conversation doesn’t work because once they fire up they don’t stop until they say everything they want said.
Its so frustrating
