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Hello,
there it is. I’ve lost another friend. 4 years ago I had work mates, training friends and friends. I know I’ve made mistakes. They’ve also made mistakes. None of them are in contact with me anymore and now I’ve lost my best friend. I getting told not to isolate, but I feel so hurt and vulnerable, I don’t want to meet people.
Do you feel isolated and alone? I feel so alone.
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SnowieSenior Contributor
I hear you @Former-Member
I feel so lonely too. I used to have friends but have none now and I don't know how to change that.
I wish I had the answers.
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BryanaCampSenior Contributor
hi @Former-Member I was friendless and without any family for about 7 years due to crippling MH probs. I started to try to build a social network about 2 years ago by going to Meetups. I was still unwell then so very self-concious about how I appeared to people and found it extremely difficult to relate to people and feel any connection. I was very easily insulted and offended by the slightest remark by people so it was very hard work. But some people still befriended me. And then I got better MH on the right meds, then slowly my social skills developed and my friendships developed. I now have lots of friends & regularly see family. It just took a lot of time & hard work.
If you feel up to it I recommend joining Meetup. You can start by only going to mental health meetups if you like. I started that way - anxiety and depression meetups - I didn't like it because of the negativity but lots of people find it calming & supportive. I gradually explored other groups and went from there.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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Unknown userMember
@Snowie @MDT @BryanaCamp
I have learnt that it’s not important to have many friends. The last one I lost was my best friend, and I feel lost, like a lost cause, like I don’t deserve. So the idea of building a support network has back fires badly.
I will try and find casual people (I don’t want to call them friends, as I share and care about friends). People I can do activities with, without revealing much of myself. If I can get out of the house that is.
I feel so hurt.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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