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@Serenity1 i am not sure which state/teritory you are in but in some of them you dont have to go to your local school and can go somewhere else. if there are multiple teachers with issues especially when there is injuries happening i would think that is a red flag for a poorly managed staff. not to say any one person is to blame but if the teachers are so bold chances are they have been doing this for a while and getting away with it. which makes me inclined to think that the managment already knows about this issue and has either not dealt with it or doesnt know how. if possible maybe consider changing schools if it gets bad but you can always give the principal a few days and he might be doing something but waiting on someone else before he replies to you.

@Serenity1 thats not very nice at all and unprofessional i would try and find another school if that is an option of course if your daughter has good friends there and doesnt want to move then that is understandable. but sometimes when orgainzations are faced with a "problem client" they will close ranks and do everything they can to hide their own faliure. i suspect this may be happening with you. if they think you are likely to complain and make thier lives harder they will do what they can to make sure that doesnt happen be that ignoring you or excluding you from school events for some reason that is all eaiser to them than actually dealing with their own faults. to me it sounds like if you try and fight for you and your daughter in this situation they will put up a fight back and it is up to you to decide what is worth your energy and time to fight with. but of coruse i am not in this situation so i cant say anything for sure but from your description it seems like an agency trying to cover up their mess.

Hey @Serenity1,

I can’t imagine how stressful this situation is as a mum trying to support your daughter, where you and some other parents have serious concerns about the behaviour of some teachers. It is so fantastic you emailed the principal to outline your concerns! Focusing on your daughter’s schooling and the impact on her that you are observing sounds like a great way to go.

It is so tough in these situations having to wait for a response and not knowing what is happening behind the scenes. It sounds like that interaction at school this morning made you really worried.

I’d just like to echo @CheerBear in thinking that we don’t know what the principal is thinking at this point or what he is doing in response to your original email. There are so many possibilities. The worst-case scenario might be them becoming defensive, but on the other hand his original email was empathetic and he wanted to meet, which sounds positive.

I hope you continue to feel supported from the forums around this difficult situation,

Tortoiseshell

@Serenity1

I can understand you feeling the judging and excluding behaviour of the principal and being hurt.

@Eden1919 @CheerBear Gave really helpful replies.

Dont let it beat you. Face the fact that the principal is not in your camp ... for whatever reason ... we cannot know all the reasons .. or his biases.

Self care and Care of the young are primary. Fight for your rights in the most canny way. Eden is right about the different schools. Whether you change immediately or wait is up to you.

One of the ways I managed to overcome the schizophrenia in my family is that I started out early in life to be very analytical about what happened to me AND what happened to them. I worked out what was accidental, deliberate, due to ignorance or malice etc etc. After a long time I worked out that I had the same rights as others and began to fight for that.

Maybe you need a shield like warrior Athena or an Interior Castle or Sacred Cave ....

See what holds me together is that stuff has been coming out in the news for the last 20 years that backs up a little scribble in my dad's file about his being raped and the closing of ranks against him ... now Pell is in trouble ... and my mother made me kneel down and kiss cardinals' rings quite a few times. I never even knew they were a symbol of love from a boy to a girl .... thats my crazy life ... telling snippets to give you courage ... I know you feel the chips are down.

Dont doubt your experience. Take Care