ally2Casual Contributor
Marriage break-up
Hi - sorry in advance for the very long post. I tried to call Relationships Australia but they are not open on Sunday.
My husband of 19 years recently (about 10 days ago) walked out on my daughter’s and I. We have had problems over the past couple of years - he says I am too negative and I pick on him all the time and therefore he is unhappy on the marriage. This is somewhat true and I hate myself for it! I just seem to nitpick him all the time - it’s like I can’t stop myself. Anyway he finally had enough and moved out of our home and in with his brother. He said he needs some time and space to think about things. I swore I would change and be a better wife but he said “I don’t think you can change”. I am now desperately scared that he has made up his mind that our marriage is over and that he won’t come back. We have 2 daughters aged 17 and 15.
He manages the family transport business (I work there also) and is under tremendous stress at work and works 70-80 hours per week. I have always been very supportive and understanding of the demands of the job and have never complained about how little we see him. But now I am beginning to think that maybe that is why I am so negative with him - perhaps I subconsciously resent always being his 2nd priority after the job. The pain and hurt is just so raw at the moment, and I don’t know what to do in the short term. I desperately want him back 😓
