Long distance caring

Hi @mhsw

Welcome to the Forums 🙂 I think there are some common issues and unique issues between living close to the person your caring for and living a distance from the person your caring for.

The support you provide is very similar to what many other carers provide, regardless of distance. The unconditional support, problem solving, financial help and being there for your brother and your mother. You should give yourself a lot of credit for that assistance you provide your family.

I'm not sure if this will make any difference to the suggestions and support that other carers offer you, but which country are they living in?

Welcome again,

Nik

Also now that I think about it... there's a fair few carers who have shared that they care for someone in different states and parts of the world. Off the top of my head, I know @PeppiPatty has a son that she cares for in another state.

Peppipatty, do you have any wisdom for @mhsw ?

Hi,

mhsw - mental health social worker - my chosen profession. Love what I do.

Have given it some thought. Won't be an easy decision. Might try a pilot approach - three months there and three months here (India and Aus) And see the impact

I once had the privilege of assisting a woman in palliative care... She taught me the most simple and yet profound way of living - in her death bed. She said in the final days for some it's darkness for some it's white light ... For some all the cross roads that they've ever encountered ... Flow in a stream ... Reminding them of the series of choices and turns they took in life ... The only comfort we can have is to know that we made an informed choice at each turn and be content with those... No regrets or second thoughts...

Since then I've almost made that a core value...but this - to rent my home out, leave behind my adorable and well tended garden, my dearest dog and my career... Lot to process... Too many series of cross roads all at once... Thank you for the reply.