One way marriage

@Nay69 I honestly have no advice, but I'm listening and hearing you. I was in a one way marriage some years ago. Different reasons to yours. It's hard and both you and your daughter deserve better, but I think deep down you know that.

Do you have any professional support? If not a GP is a good place to start. Please don't struggle alone. There are many others around the forums who have been through or are going through similar situations. Hope to see you around.

@Nay69 Have you had a look around the forum? There are some lighter threads where you might just like to get to know a few others wandering around. I'll tag you into a few.

Hi @Nay69@Maggie

I know what you are talking about - I had two long term relationships - but husband was a man who was silent and morose - and as the years passed we lived different lives and we had little in common and eventually we separated and divorce and I was glad to get out of it

My second relationship - we were not romantically involved and I didn't live with him thank goodness - this meant I had my own place and often retreated there and broke up with him often, I was intolerant of his addiction to the dreaded weed and eventually broke up forever though he followed me around and in spite of the years since and he doesn't know where I live now I have seen him follow me now and again which is not pleasant

I do know what you are talking about - he was angry with me a lot and I loved him alas - we cannot just turn love on and off like a switch though he managed to destroy my love for him - and I am pretty sure he didn't love me - maybe he loved what he thought I was in his weedy dreams - I will never know

But it does hurt - this I know - and I was free to leave him behind - when you are married it's harder

But he is abusing you - and one suggestion I have is to seek support but I don't know where now - Department of Human Services is one

Other people might know

But you are not stupid and it is not your fault - it's unpleasant that your daughter is exposed to all of this - but you are not failing her

But it's up to you to decide whether it's worth staying in the relationship - my suggestion is not - but it's easy for me to say

I just know it's really horrible to be in a one-way-relationship and also to be with a person who is more interested in their drug of choice than you

I hear you - I get it

Dec

Thanks for sharing and write more - you are most welcome to be in this forum - people here have many stories and many ideas

@Owlunar

Thank you so much x

I am so happy to have found this forum. You are all so supportive which means the world to me.

I have so much that I want to share and now I feel like I have a safe place to be

good afternoon @Nay69, @Owlunar, @Maggie