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LoserkikiContributor
I am constantly sick I get every bug have so many medical issues, I am failing at life, it is affecting everyone around me. I achieve nothing I am constantly failing, every attempt to lift myself up fails. At what point should we see the benefit in suicide rather than having to suffer everyday so other people won’t be sad?
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LoserkikiContributor
Well this has been super helpful
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utopiaSenior Contributor
@Loserkiki. I think suicide is a decision that only the individual can make. But not lightly. We keep taking our meds, talking to our psychologists, checking in with our psychiatrist. Hoping there will be some relief soon from our mental anguish.
A month ago I attempted suicide. Today, I'm glad I failed. Today I have no depression. Today I can cope.
Sounds like your depression has a big hold on you at the moment. Negative self talk. Illness. Pain. Very common with depression.
Are you taking any medication or seeing a psychologist?. They do help.Hope to hear from you soon.
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Hi @Loserkiki,
Welcome to the forums, it is very brave of you to come on here and be so upfront about how difficult things are at the moment. I'm sorry that your medical issues are so challenging and you are not feeling a lot of hope at the moment. I can hear you have been trying very hard recently and that takes a lot out of a person.
I have sent you an email to check in with you, as you mentioned thinking about or questioning the benefits of suicide.
I hope you find the forums supporting and helpful. Please feel free to have a look around at different discussions and if you would like to 'tag' another member just put @ in front of their username.
Just be aware there is a lot of activity in the forums tonight in our moderated discussion on loneliness tonight here if you would like to take part or have a look. No pressure.
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BluJayContributor
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LoserkikiContributor
@utopia I have minimal meds and no longer seeing my psychiatrist as I can’t afford it and my psychologist died 17 months ago and I can’t see a new one.
i have chronic illness and feel like a burden everyday I am surrounded by my failure and it is painful.
why can’t we pay for good help like a HECS debt pay it off when we becoming functioning human beings
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LoserkikiContributor
@utopia Do you think you needed to nearly die to get over it?
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LoserkikiContributor
@BluJay Yes I want all the bad things to die, if that could happen it would be amazing but it is unlikely. The older my daughter gets the more I become a burden to her, she is 10 she is starting to see the failure I am, I would rather she remembers me in a good way
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utopiaSenior Contributor
Trying to afford decent mental health care is so hard @Loserkiki. I'm lucky in a way that mine is under WorkCover.
But it sounds like your depression may be worse than a year or 2 ago. So you may need to find a way to get to see a psychiatrist for a medication review. What about using the local community mental health team and seeing their psychiatrist ?
No I don't think I had to almost die to 'feel's or get better. It was simply that I ended up in hospital afterwards and my psychiatrist reduced one meh that was at toxic levels and hurting my mental health and he added a mood stabiliser. Within days - no more depression - after an 18 month long episode. It was a tough 18 months.
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LoserkikiContributor
@utopia Sorry if I was a bit insensitive, I don’t think I need a psychiatrist I have gone broke paying for 5 years and she wouldn’t listen to me when I told her my side effects so I took myself off some meds with my Dr permission. I don’t trust free doctors my surgery had a psychiatrist come on board he told me he wouldn’t see me unless it was ok with my former psychiatrist. I don’t want meds now I don’t think they help, I was devastated when my psychologist died finding a new one is expensive. I don’t think you should have gone through 18 months of hell to have the problem fixed only after you attempted to end your life, they only really care if you are going to or have attempted suicide.
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Hi @Loserkiki,
Glad to see you have had some really helpful and supportive responses here. This is a really hard subject to discuss at the best of times. It can be particulalry hard when we have had difficult experiences in the healthcare system. Sometimes it can feel like people may only care when things are heightened. It can be a case however of this being the time or moment that people come out for help. In this case it is really worthwhile to reach out a little earlier when you are struggling.
It sounds like you have a good GP, it might be worth talking to them and finding out what you can do to find further support that will suit you best.
If you do feel at risk or do want some details on options and clincal programs you can contact these crisis services which are well informed on this subject.
Lifeline: 13 11 14 or Crisis Chat
Suicide call back service: 1300 659 467 or online counselling
Samaritans: 135 247
This space cannot offer medical advice unfortunately but as you can see it is a wonderful peer support group. You may like to take some time in the social area to get your mind off things and meet some others as well - I wonder if you are into any hobbies like crafts or gardening perhaps? these can both be so theraputic!
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