when is a loved one classified as a missing person

@Sophia1 My dear friend Sophia1 xxxxx

@Sophia1

Inexpressible pain.

Hi @Sophia1

I don't like the term Mental Illness either - maybe it applies to someone who is really incapitated by whatever it is that ails them but not everyone

I prefer the term I invented - Emotional Discomfort - which I think - well in my case - in the past I had Reactive Depression and I still have Anxiety - and that can be bothersome and can really fracture a day - or an event - try changing terminals at the airport when the flight is nearly ready to leave - that was a kicker

But about missing persons - yes - I have been on the "safe-at-home" side of missing persons - my son was frequently missing and it was a nightmare. There were no mobile phones then and I would have no idea where he was or why he had chosen to run off again and I never will - was he abused? I will never know -

But he was so unhappy - I suppose he ran away to find a better place but of course when ever he got where he was going - he was still himself and so miserable and so fragile

Our hearts can break for those who disappear - and sometimes forever - anything could and sometimes does happen - I feel so much for families of people who are lost forever - I cannot imagine what that must be like as my son turned up every time - but it is a horrible place

Don't we as their loved-ones count? Don't we matter? Have they run off to punish us for some real or imagined fault? How can we ever tell?

You have such a powerful point to make here Sophia - I am glad you have spoken up

Dec

Thank you for such a caring response @Owlunar

I read my post again and realise that I was all over the place at the time of writing it....

In fact it probably does not make sense to most people...

I am tempted to delete it...

You connected with my meaning though which helped me tremendously...

perhaps that is the answer not so much the precise wording of a post...rather the feelings read between the words...particularly by those who have or are still experiencing grief of a loved one through loss within their illness...

there is so much that I can put into words...

I am just so very tired...

"family member" is all over the place during telephone calls...desperately wanting help...diverting to delusional thinking...now his cards are stolen for his bank account...he believes money stolen from his account...

his father has sent him some money and I sent him some today...

he is at least finally on some medication...

however probably being released next week...

the government has so much to answer for...

it is not the people working within the system...it is the limitations and poor pay...lack of beds...upgrades and reductions of beds...

emergency department overloads...

on and on and on...

Australia is heading down the same path as America...

The government does not care about the mental health system in this country at all....they do not care about the health system full stop...

even doctors...specialists whom I have spoken with have openly said that the system is failing ...breaking down...

one specialist told me that he has told his son not to study medicine as the government does not provide adequate facilities and staffing..

how sad is that..

I am one person...

if one more person listens and tells someone else..

then the message can continue on...

change can happen that way...

@Sophia1

Don't delete the post @Sophia1 - it's a good one - you have made good points

You are probably too close to it all and being let down - it's hard to sort our ideas when so much is happening all at the same time - and you are tired - but it makes perfect sense to me

Yesterday I had a moment of melt-down - I will write about it in my thread and tag you - I wasn't triggered - it just happened - but out of nowhere I felt the pain of my son dying as he did - so broken and unhappy inside himself and losing his life - suicide - it really hit me and I had a bad night -

But I understand the missing person thing and yes - in our case DHS was not what it is today - it was a long time ago and a broken system for broken families with broken teens and it was something I had my 10 minutes of fame on TV about when I had the chance to comment on the system and did and what went on after that led to the improvement

You are right though - the workers are often dedicated and there is not enough pay and not enough people and not enough facilities and not enough placements and your missing person is going to be out of wherever he is and this is a huge bother for you because you care so much and I understand - I have been there - I have no idea how I found placements for my son but I did - phone call after phone call in despair - he couldn't/wouldn't live with us - heart-breaking - yes - and although everyone's situation is different we have a commonality there - things can be tough and we have to work it through and we have a starving system and too many people - many in the wrong place and I can hear you and I am with you - and I really do get it

And you are right - Australia is heading down the same path and America - pardon my irony but we are following another blind leader and we may fall into a ditch

And you are one person and I am one person - I added my voice to the wilderness decades ago and now you are but we are two people and there are others - it's just that we are not all in the one place at the same time

Thinking of you

Dec

@Owlunar

Thank you so much for such depth in your response...

I shall read your other post that you have tagged me in...

I want to show the respect that you are so entitled to...

I do hope that my writing on here was not a catalyst for your "moment of melt-down"

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Well here I am stumbling over my own thread written four and a half years ago.

I have no recollection of writing this. I know every single feeling as I read my words again

Very little has changed..

He has been let down more and more

Been homeless more times losing rent paid in advance as he runs from one state to another ...

housing flat broken into too many times trashed and belongings stolen

Lost track how many times detained in different states

mistreated might be acceptable as not wanting to traumatise others...in shelters and on the street

6 ft tall weighing 60kgs. So withdrawn eyes set back

Back in his state relapsed each year for last 3 yrs. 3 more detainments

last hospital disgraceful. Released and discarded.

Unsafe environment at boarding house leading him to flee for this safety again

missing again

No support in place missed injection even though under CTO???

he has anosognosia

most of system have not even heard of it

stuck in dim dark ages with diagnoses.. the psychiatrist and registrar did not get past page one of the text book..they failed him and did not follow procedure and protocol

nurses were good

I told them listen to him get him off of this merrygoround.

Why are the hospitals so full?. Early releases.

Same treatment or lack of.

Not enough support to match person not label. Resources overloaded.

I am out of steam

Have found a very good carer line interstate..not my own state!

These two ladies on there are incredible. They should be running the Carer organisations.
I feel like jumping on a plane and renting a room just to attend a few groups.

I sound hopeless

I am sick of hearing all of it that floats in my head

doing me in

so That screams at me

how bad it is for my son existing in this nightmare

this is not a life

what good am I

nothing

Weeping about my pain

imagine his

I think that this has been going on for

8-9 years now

I really do not know any more