RPattyNew Contributor
Depressed Girlfriend is pushing me away severely
Hi, im not very good at these. My girlfriend of two years has always struggled with severe anxiety and depression. She stopped taking medication for her depressive episodes before i met her, however this recent episode appears to be her worst, as in this time, she has almost completely pushed me away. For the past two years things have been wonderful, we have been in love, she was always super mushy and affectionate towards me, and we had plans for a future together. This past spring we had to take a break however due to our families, but we recovered and were happier than ever, finding new confidence in ourselves and eachother. However almost a month ago her episode began. She began to slowly push me out, and while her previous episodes had never lasted long, i tried to just be there for her, console her, and make sure she knew i loved her with my everything. She wasnt getting better, but she would still talk to me, and loved us. However i made a mistake of taking the depression personally, and it upset her greatly. Due to this, this past weekend she has turned severely cold on me. She attempted to break up with me one evening while calling me, but i told her she was being self destructive, to which she seemed to realize she was,and assured her that if she still wanted the breakup when she was no longer depressed, i would go. She then told me that the relationship was putting pressure on her, and that she was no longer giving me the love and affection that she wanted to, and that the stress of it was hurting her, and she wanted to heal in her own right. I understood this and offered her space. I now only message her a good morning and a goodnight every day along with telling her im here for her. She still posts on social media, especially twitter. She once told me she enjoys twitter because she feels it doesnt bother anybody, so i can understand why she posts so much. A once depressed friend of mine has consoled me with details of his partners and his struggle with his depression, and informed me of cycles that people who suffer with depression tend to face around certain times of the year. I know my girlfriend gets stressed because of her family life and school, and saw this coming and tried my best to cushion it. Recently in her posts, she is following a similar cycle to when she was depressed last time, and im just wondering what i should do. She is my bestfriend and love of my life. Im just really terrified of losing her, especially since no more than a month ago she was head over heels for me, and coming to me constantly for everything, where as now i find out anything about her through social media.
Thank you
-Patty
